by Barnabas | Jun 23, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Practical Tips, Psychologists |
I recently read the book, “The Paraphilias: Changing Suits in the Evolution of Sexual Interest Paradigms” by J. Paul Fedoroff. I found it not only tremendously fascinating but quite helpful. You don’t all need to go out and purchase the book because the book is...
by Barnabas | Oct 7, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Change is hard. What causes a crossdresser to make a decision to stop crossdressing? And for crossdressers who successfully stop and find happiness without crossdressing in their life, what is it that helped them to change? What is it that allows people to overcome...
by Barnabas | Aug 13, 2020 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Homosexuality, Psychologists, Suffering, Testimonies, Transgender |
Radical Cultural Shift We live in strange times. Not long ago, people who tried to overcome addictions were encouraged and their testimonies celebrated. People who fought against harmful gender stereotypes and sought to accept themselves for who they are were formerly...
by Barnabas | Jun 19, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I know the title of this article might seem a little like an oxymoron, but let me assure you from experience that it is not. If you have struggled with crossdressing addiction, like I have, getting yourself an internet filter for your computer will allow you to...
by Barnabas | Feb 3, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Marriage, Purges of Clothing, Testimonies |
By David Galatians This is my story of walking on the path to healing and redemption with the Lord. Let me clearly state that I am a Christian. I believe that crossdressing is a sin and is not the plan that God has for us – His children. I have had a person...
by Barnabas | Dec 28, 2019 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Sometimes what causes us to fail is simply having a wrong attitude and mindset about the whole process of overcoming crossdressing addiction or sexual addictions of any kind. I have found myself dropping into a false mindset often. At times, I focus too much on the...
by Barnabas | Aug 5, 2019 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Prayer, Temptations |
This may be surprising to some of you, but one of the most common questions I’ve been asked since I started this website many years ago is: “Did demons cause my crossdressing desires?” Or other related questions like: “Am I possessed by a demon...
by Barnabas | Jul 8, 2019 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Sexual Intercourse, Testimonies |
By Karen My husband told me he liked to wear women’s clothes before we were married 16 years ago. I felt honored that he trusted me enough to tell me; I was the only one he’d told. Of course, I was also full of questions and worries: was he gay?...
by Barnabas | Jun 1, 2019 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Pause: How Delaying Gratification can Lead to Long Term Satisfaction Written by JH JH says: I am 27 year old guy that loves Jesus, sports, and my family. I was saved seven years ago out of my cross dressing addiction, and am continually working towards further healing...
by Barnabas | Mar 30, 2019 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Prayer, Temptations |
For Christians who have battled with sexual addictions like crossdressing throughout their lives, I think Mark 14:38 is a really emotional and powerful verse. Jesus said to the disciples, “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is...
by Barnabas | Mar 12, 2019 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I would like to recommend the book, Transvestites and Transsexuals: Toward a Theory of Cross-Gender Behavior, written by Richard F. Docter, published in 1988. Before I talk about the book, let me give a warning. Don’t read this book without getting into a...
by Barnabas | Jan 8, 2019 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
If you’ve spent much time reading about crossdressing online then you will probably know about the term “purging” and all of the wisdom and lore that has built up around this idea. Purging is basically the act of getting rid of all of your female...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
When a sexual temptation like crossdressing comes up, many of us feel like we go into a frenzy. We lose our heads and feel like we need to give in. We can’t think as logically as we normally would. For me, my body would sometimes even shake thinking about the...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender Fiction |
In 2 Samuel chapters 11-12, we read the story of David committing adultery with Bathsheba. And then, to cover up his sin, he found a way to have Uriah, Bathsheba’s husband, killed. Finally, God sent the prophet Nathan to challenge and rebuke David. In the end,...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Temptations |
One of the temptations I have faced, and I’m sure many of you also deal with, is the desire to use photo editors and phone apps to change photos to make yourself look like a woman. Some apps these days are so advanced that all you need to do is upload a photo and it...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations |
Because of the nature of addiction, you cannot fight your addiction alone. You will need help. I’ve said this so many times on this blog, but you need to find an accountability partner! In this post I want to talk about the merits of having an accountability...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Most people who come to this blog wrongly jump to conclusions about me. Some people think that one day I decided to give up crossdressing and everything has been easy sailing since. And so they despair when they themselves are not able to give it up so easily and when...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
We can stand our ground, brace ourselves, learn self-control, and resist in the face of strong urges to crossdress. But that gets tiring. So many crossdressers that come to this site try quitting and they find that they can do so. But then they get weary and say,...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Purges of Clothing |
In the past I used to read through forums at crossdressing websites to dialogue and also to get a sense of what crossdressers are feeling and experiencing. One thing that impressed upon me many times was seeing that most crossdressers continue to experience guilt and...
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