by Barnabas | Mar 13, 2023 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Filters and Security, Guest Posts, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Written by Ewan: Last time we looked at the relationship between relapse and hope. I discussed how there is hope in what we can learn from them. Hope can inspire, hope can drive us, hope can motivate and fill us with a good urge to act. To do something! The...
by Barnabas | Feb 22, 2023 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Pornography, Practical Tips, Transgender |
I’d like to outline one practical tool that could be helpful for some people in their recovery process. I got the idea a decade ago from a previous accountability partner. He used to struggle with pornography addiction. When he would have a failure with looking...
by Barnabas | Feb 8, 2023 | Crossdressing, Envy, Guest Posts, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Suffering, Testimonies |
Written by Steve: I’ve read through the contents of this website and it’s been extremely encouraging and informative. I very much identify with the recommendation of Buckners article on The Transvestite Career Path which was highly informative and rang so many...
by Barnabas | Jan 24, 2023 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Guest Posts |
By Ewan Since my last post about relapse, I stated that we need to be very aware that they could happen. This might not sound like good news, because when we are healing we want to keep moving forward. Saying that a relapse could happen does not sound very...
by Barnabas | Jan 10, 2023 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I’ve written extensively already about how a large aspect of our crossdressing is really about lust and sexual pleasure. But there is an aspect of crossdressing that I think is less about lust and more about romance or companionship with the other, the opposite...
by Barnabas | Dec 23, 2022 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Testimonies |
Written by Jack God can use our weakness and struggles to bring us closer to him. I have been reflecting on where I am in my journey with cross dressing. At first I felt like I had totally backslid and reached new lows in my addiction over the past year...
by Barnabas | Nov 30, 2022 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Pornography, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure |
Earlier this year I tried to do some informal research through a survey with ex-crossdressers in this community, both Christian and non-Christian. My sample size is very small, so I realize the results are not able to hold up to scientific scrutiny. Nevertheless, the...
by Barnabas | Nov 11, 2022 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Origins of the Desires |
Written by Simon: I recently started Christian counseling about my sexual brokenness and have begun reading through Breaking Free by Russell Willingham. As is also true for many of those I’ve talked to, this issue has been with us since our youth and...
by Barnabas | Oct 19, 2022 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Masturbation |
Written by William When I decided to take the SAST test the first time, I was curious to find out how much I was thinking about sex and how much it was consuming my time. It was obvious that I had an obsession and the test showed that I am a sex addict....
by Barnabas | Sep 22, 2022 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Identity, Temptations |
By Simon I have read Barnabas’ blog post on What Causes People to Change and I’ve been thinking about rewards and consequences for promoting change in our behavior. I also read through the Transvestic Career Path and thought about the fourth...
by Barnabas | Aug 15, 2022 | Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Testimonies, Transgender |
Written by Deborah From my earliest memories I wanted to be a boy and despised everything to do with being a girl. I dressed in boys clothes, played with my brothers’ toys and rode my bmx with them. Nothing changed in my teens. I didn’t see anything wrong with...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2022 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
Over the years I have read extensively about crossdressing and talked with many crossdressers, and have found that there is great diversity among crossdressers, especially in regard to the various reasons that crossdressers engage in crossdressing. There are so many...
by Barnabas | May 7, 2022 | Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Testimonies |
Written by Apollos Early on in my counseling sessions I revealed to my therapist that I believe that I know why I started to crossdress when I was a child. He suggested that I write a letter to the person that was instrumental in encouraging my...
by Barnabas | Apr 13, 2022 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Identity, Testimonies, Transgender |
By Justin One of my most vivid memories as a pubescent boy struggling with gender dysphoria was being alone at night laying in my bed and being so upset with that fact that I had been born a boy. I wished so hard many nights that I would wake up and my life...
by Barnabas | Mar 29, 2022 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Prayer, Temptations |
Written by TJ I am writing this as a warning both to myself, and anyone who desires to read this. I have prayed for the proper words to get the necessary points across, so please bear with me. I am all too aware that my words have no power or impact – unless...
by Barnabas | Mar 14, 2022 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
A friend recommended to me the book – “Living with a Transvestite: A Phenomenological Study of Wives and Committed Partners of Transvestite” by Heather Christine Freegard. It is free to download, so any of you can read it! All in all it was a book...
by Barnabas | Feb 4, 2022 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Guest Posts |
Written by Ewan One of the hardest things about recovery is relapse. That is, after enjoying a period of not engaging in crossdressing thoughts or behaviours, going back to it. It’s frustrating: “Will I ever get rid of this in my life?” It’s demoralising: “I...
by Barnabas | Jan 21, 2022 | Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender Fiction |
It occurred to me recently that a part of our recovery and healing process as former crossdressers should be to examine our hearts to specifically repent of our sexism, and ask God to transform our hearts and minds. Why do I say this? My experience with crossdressing...
by Barnabas | Dec 8, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
Written by Ewan One of my first memories is of messing around in the attic when I was about 5 years old. I put on a pair of my mum’s boots. I liked the feeling. My brother laughed. Since then I have always had these two parts to me; the bit that loves the...
by Barnabas | Oct 13, 2021 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
As people visit this website and ask for my advice, one of the most common struggles reported is difficulty during sex in marriage even after crossdressing has been left behind. This can be for many reasons. One of the most common is that wives feel betrayed and hurt...
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