by Barnabas | Jan 9, 2024 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I would like to recommend the book Autoheterosexual: Attracted to Being the Other Sex written by Phil Illy, himself an autoheterosexual, more specifically someone who experiences autogynephilia, just like I do. (I recommend this book with some strong reservations,...
by Barnabas | Apr 3, 2023 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Dealing with Failures, Guest Posts |
Written by Jack: How many times have you heard this? You can’t quit crossdressing. It’s who you are. Don’t waste your time, embrace it. My addiction to dressing led me to spend a lot of time online talking with other CDs and this was a constant theme. I...
by Barnabas | Jun 23, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Practical Tips, Psychologists |
I recently read the book, “The Paraphilias: Changing Suits in the Evolution of Sexual Interest Paradigms” by J. Paul Fedoroff. I found it not only tremendously fascinating but quite helpful. You don’t all need to go out and purchase the book because the book is...
by Barnabas | Apr 11, 2021 | Bible, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Transgender |
1 Peter 3:15-16 – But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak...
by Barnabas | Aug 13, 2020 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Homosexuality, Psychologists, Suffering, Testimonies, Transgender |
Radical Cultural Shift We live in strange times. Not long ago, people who tried to overcome addictions were encouraged and their testimonies celebrated. People who fought against harmful gender stereotypes and sought to accept themselves for who they are were formerly...
by Barnabas | May 3, 2019 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Transgender |
For those in our community who have given up crossdressing or who are trying to heal from gender dysphoria, one of the common questions asked is: “what does it look like for me to live as a man?” It’s straightforward to say that we should stop...
by Barnabas | Feb 24, 2019 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Identity, Law and Policy, Marriage, Psychologists, Suffering, Transgender |
Many of us today might feel like we are stuck in the worst period of history given our particular struggles. At no time in history have crossdressing and transgenderism been more accepted and celebrated than they are today. Even many people who don’t experience gender...
by Barnabas | Sep 16, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Homosexuality, Identity, Paraphilias, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Definition of Terms The first thing to note is that these terms are defined differently by different people. Furthermore, as our culture is changing, these terms are changing in their definitions. To make matters even more complicated, as culture changes some of these...
by Barnabas | Sep 16, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Law and Policy, Origins of the Desires, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I would like to recommend the book Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcey. You could read some good book reviews here and here. Although there is only one chapter on transgender issues, the whole book is very important. Pearcey gives a very clear and strong critique of the...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Homosexuality, Origins of the Desires, Temptations |
It seems to be the fashion in our culture among both non-Christians and Christians to say that if we were born with certain tendencies or desires, then those tendencies and desires are good and should be embraced. This comes up often with the topic of homosexuality....
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Additional Resources, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Identity, Transgender |
Listen to this good podcast by Pastor John Piper – He or She? How Should I Refer to Transgender Friends? What do we do when a transgender friend wants us to call them a new name, and we know that the new name does not fit their actual sex? Or imagine you are a...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I want to strongly recommend Mark Yarhouse’s book called “Understanding Gender Dysphoria.” You can read about Dr. Yarhouse – here. He is an expert on matters of sexual identity, and is well respected by both Christians and non-Christians. To be honest, I did not agree...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Identity, Law and Policy, Psychologists, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
Analogies are never fail proof. They always break down at some point because by definition, they compare two things that are alike in some ways but also not alike in some ways. But they are still helpful, and in this case particularly powerful in my opinion. A lot of...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Biological Transgender Issues, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, News Articles, Transgender |
I believe that a large part of the reason that transsexuals are becoming more accepted today is because they are more visually convincing living as the opposite sex then they used to be in the past. Obviously crossdressers and those with gender dysphoria have existed...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Homosexuality, Identity, Transgender |
In this article, Pastor Tim Keller reviews several of the popular arguments Christians have recently been using to affirm romantic same-sex relationships. Many have come up with new interpretations or ways of looking at Scripture and Keller addresses those new ideas....
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, News Articles, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
In our culture the common belief is that people can be whoever they want to be. We craft our own identity and what matters is our heart, not physical reality. Of course, as Christians, we reject this idea. It is not we who make our own identities, but we are given our...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Transgender |
From Matthew 1: 20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. 21 She will give birth to a...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Law and Policy, Psychologists, Testimonies, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I recently finished reading the book, When Harry Became Sally, by Ryan Anderson of the Heritage Foundation. This is a really well written book that examines the “transgender moment” our country has been in. Though I’m not thrilled about the title to this...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations, Transgender |
This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
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