by Barnabas | Mar 30, 2026 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Gender Dysphoria, My Personal Journey, Suffering, Temptations |
Take some time this week to deeply reflect on the wonder and power of Jesus’ resurrection. It is not just some theoretical principle that we have to believe in. It is a reality which should fundamentally change our lives! Something to reflect on daily, not just...
by Barnabas | Jan 22, 2026 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Forgiveness, Marriage, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography |
I would like to recommend the book Rescue Plan: Charting a Course to Restore Prisoners of Pornography. I will also share some quotations from the book and some of my reflections. This is one of the better books I have read on sexual addiction from a Christian...
by Barnabas | Nov 20, 2025 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage |
Broken marriage and betrayal is one of the biggest issues we face in this ministry. Many wives come to us because they have just found out about their husband’s trans porn, crossdressing, or feminine alter identity. Usually they have found out not because their...
by Barnabas | May 15, 2024 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Identity, Idolatry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Singleness, Suffering, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
If you are here reading this post, maybe you are feeling utterly depressed because of your autogynephilia or gender dysphoria. Maybe you are full of guilt, or maybe you feel anxiety and great pain from unfulfilled longing. Or maybe you are feeling hopeless and full of...
by Barnabas | Jan 24, 2023 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Guest Posts |
By Ewan Since my last post about relapse, I stated that we need to be very aware that they could happen. This might not sound like good news, because when we are healing we want to keep moving forward. Saying that a relapse could happen does not sound very...
by Barnabas | May 7, 2022 | Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Testimonies |
Written by Apollos Early on in my counseling sessions I revealed to my therapist that I believe that I know why I started to crossdress when I was a child. He suggested that I write a letter to the person that was instrumental in encouraging my...
by Barnabas | Apr 15, 2019 | Bible, Church, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Prayer |
By TJ To all, the following is a compilation of Meditations taken from A.W. Tozer. I decided to post it here, because if moved me deeply, & I wanted to share it with anyone who cares to take the time to read it. I have divided it into 4...
by Barnabas | Mar 30, 2019 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Prayer, Temptations |
For Christians who have battled with sexual addictions like crossdressing throughout their lives, I think Mark 14:38 is a really emotional and powerful verse. Jesus said to the disciples, “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Singleness, Temptations, Transgender |
In this post I will make some general observations about how the church should respond and deal with hard issues like homosexuality, crossdressing, and transsexualism. But more importantly, this post is about how the church should respond to the people struggling with...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Church, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender Fiction |
In 2 Samuel chapters 11-12, we read the story of David committing adultery with Bathsheba. And then, to cover up his sin, he found a way to have Uriah, Bathsheba’s husband, killed. Finally, God sent the prophet Nathan to challenge and rebuke David. In the end,...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations |
Merry Christmas! This week I thought I’d write about Christmas and how it relates to our struggle. What we celebrate at Christmas is the beauty and mystery of the incarnation (God made flesh) – the Son, the second person of the Trinity, taking on human...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations |
Many of us here are addicts – whether to crossdressing, trans porn, sissy hypnosis, or reading transgender fiction. Because of the nature of addiction, you cannot fight your addiction alone. You will need help. I’ve said this so many times on this website,...
by Barnabas | Aug 14, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Psychologists, Temptations, Testimonies |
I have told quite a number of people in my life (30-40) about my crossdressing and autogynephilia, both professionals, and family and friends. So I’d like to share some wisdom about how to best do this and some general tips. For me, in every case of telling...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, Practical Tips |
This is a common topic of interest for wives who have husbands dealing with cross-gender sexual addictions, and also for the men themselves who are dealing with these burdens, and want to know how to talk about it with their wives. For wives just learning about their...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations, Transgender |
I wanted to highlight the spiritual discipline of fasting as a practical tool to help you. It’s not something that everyone has to do, and it is not something that benefits everyone in the same way. But it has helped me in my recovery from crossdressing addiction and...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’m going to quoting a lengthy section from a book by Tim Keller, called Preaching: Communicating Faith in an Age of Skepticism. He brilliantly picks apart the modern ideas of our culture, including the myth of “choosing to be yourself.” He begins by...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations |
Recently I listened to this free sermon online by Pastor Tim Keller. It was a powerful message for any Christian, but for me when thinking about crossdressing it was especially insightful. I highly recommend it – Spiritual Warfare by Tim Keller. If the links do...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey |
Crossdressers love to play dress-up. I’ve been there. I know the secret pleasures of hours in front of the mirror playing dress-up with clothes that were not meant for me. Ah, but that time is gone. And I don’t miss it. What a fruitless activity. What a...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Prayer |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
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