by Barnabas | Jan 22, 2026 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Forgiveness, Marriage, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography |
I would like to recommend the book Rescue Plan: Charting a Course to Restore Prisoners of Pornography. I will also share some quotations from the book and some of my reflections. This is one of the better books I have read on sexual addiction from a Christian...
by Barnabas | Nov 20, 2025 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage |
Broken marriage and betrayal is one of the biggest issues we face in this ministry. Many wives come to us because they have just found out about their husband’s trans porn, crossdressing, or feminine alter identity. Usually they have found out not because their...
by Barnabas | Oct 10, 2025 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Gender Dysphoria, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
It is really common for men with autogynephilia to end up enjoying crossdressing without any sexual component. For many of them, this is an argument they use for themselves and to other people to justify why their crossdressing is harmless and not a bad thing. Or they...
by Barnabas | Oct 4, 2025 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Guest Posts, Marriage, Psychologists, Support Groups, Testimonies |
Title: Ann’s Testimony This is a brief story on how my life literally crumbled to the ground and how day by day, hard work and consistency have paid off. In August 2024 I discovered that my husband was crossdressing at home. When I caught him it was like...
by Barnabas | May 22, 2025 | Allosexuality, Asexuality, Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Singleness |
One helpful way to handle living with autogynephilia (AGP) is learning to prioritize your heterosexuality and starve your autogynephilia. This can help to greatly lessen the strength of our autogynephilic desires over time. This is the experience I have had along with...
by Barnabas | May 3, 2025 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Marriage, Testimonies |
Written by NHA I struggled with crossdressing (CD) for many years. I kept it a secret from everyone. My wife, Lisa, may have had an inkling that I crossdressed now and then, but it had been many years since I admitted it when she noticed fuzz from her velvet...
by Barnabas | Apr 7, 2025 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
In this post are questions asked by wives in the Private Wives Group which is a support and prayer group for wives of crossdressers. The questions are answered by a few former crossdressers from the Christian Recovery Group. The wives have very diverse experiences...
by Barnabas | Dec 11, 2024 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Testimonies |
Written by Guiseppe I spent the entirety of my life serving two gods, as Matthew 6:24 warns against. I had a secret life of crossdressing and gender issues that I kept hidden from a very young age. When I was young, Christ transformed my life in every way possible,...
by Barnabas | Nov 14, 2024 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Gender Dysphoria, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Pleasure |
In this post, I am not out to attack men with autogynephilia (AGP). Rather, as someone who has experienced autogynephilia myself, I write out of great compassion for guys who find themselves with desires they don’t know what to do with. A start for learning how...
by Barnabas | Aug 17, 2024 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Marriage, Temptations |
In my interactions with recovering crossdressers and their wives over the years, a certain issue has come up frequently. At times a wife may think she should stop dressing in a feminine way for fear of triggering her husband’s crossdressing desires or arousing his...
by Barnabas | Jul 25, 2024 | Crossdressing, Marriage, Practical Tips, Temptations |
In this post, I’d like to briefly share a simple strategy for fighting temptation to crossdress. I have in mind the experience of the majority of the guys in my recovery group. Most of these men are married, and they have already purged their female clothing....
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2023 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Marriage, Testimonies |
Written by Simon I can remember my conversion experience vividly even though it was over 30 years ago. Here’s a brief testimony of the grace and faithfulness of our God in my life… I grew up as the youngest of several siblings in a...
by Barnabas | May 22, 2023 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Marriage, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
Written by Norvic Over the last few months, I’ve discovered a new favourite Bible book- the Song of Songs. It’s not one that tends to be preached or read as much as others, but as I’ve studied it, I’ve become convinced that it’s a book that deserves the...
by Barnabas | Jan 10, 2023 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I’ve written extensively already about how a large aspect of our crossdressing is really about lust and sexual pleasure. But there is an aspect of crossdressing that I think is less about lust and more about romance or companionship with the other, the opposite...
by Barnabas | Nov 30, 2022 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Pornography, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure |
Earlier this year I tried to do some informal research through a survey with ex-crossdressers in this community, both Christian and non-Christian. My sample size is very small, so I realize the results are not able to hold up to scientific scrutiny. Nevertheless, the...
by Barnabas | Mar 14, 2022 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
A friend recommended to me the book – “Living with a Transvestite: A Phenomenological Study of Wives and Committed Partners of Transvestite” by Heather Christine Freegard. It is free to download, so any of you can read it! All in all it was a book...
by Barnabas | Dec 8, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
Written by Ewan One of my first memories is of messing around in the attic when I was about 5 years old. I put on a pair of my mum’s boots. I liked the feeling. My brother laughed. Since then I have always had these two parts to me; the bit that loves the...
by Barnabas | Oct 13, 2021 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
As people visit this website and ask for my advice, one of the most common struggles reported is difficulty during sex in marriage even after crossdressing has been left behind. This can be for many reasons. One of the most common is that wives feel betrayed and hurt...
by Barnabas | Sep 20, 2021 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Practical Tips, Purges of Clothing, Temptations |
An Atheist’s 12 Steps to Stop Crossdressing Introduction – Some of my readers may wonder why I, Barnabas, as a Christian pastor running this very clearly Christian website, would publish a guest post by an atheist. Let me explain. I have not given up my...
by Barnabas | Aug 18, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Suffering, Testimonies |
This is a post of questions asked by ex-crossdressers in the Christian Recovery Group. They gave these questions to the wives of crossdressers who are in the Private Wives Group , a support and prayer group. The questions are answered by six different wives who have a...
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