by Barnabas | Aug 17, 2024 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Marriage, Temptations |
In my interactions with recovering crossdressers and their wives over the years, a certain issue has come up frequently. At times a wife may think she should stop dressing in a feminine way for fear of triggering her husband’s crossdressing desires or arousing his...
by Barnabas | Jul 25, 2024 | Crossdressing, Marriage, Practical Tips, Temptations |
In this post, I’d like to briefly share a simple strategy for fighting temptation to crossdress. I have in mind the experience of the majority of the guys in my recovery group. Most of these men are married, and they have already purged their female clothing....
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2023 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Marriage, Testimonies |
Written by Simon I can remember my conversion experience vividly even though it was over 30 years ago. Here’s a brief testimony of the grace and faithfulness of our God in my life… I grew up as the youngest of several siblings in a...
by Barnabas | May 22, 2023 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Marriage, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
Written by Norvic Over the last few months, I’ve discovered a new favourite Bible book- the Song of Songs. It’s not one that tends to be preached or read as much as others, but as I’ve studied it, I’ve become convinced that it’s a book that deserves the...
by Barnabas | Jan 10, 2023 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I’ve written extensively already about how a large aspect of our crossdressing is really about lust and sexual pleasure. But there is an aspect of crossdressing that I think is less about lust and more about romance or companionship with the other, the opposite...
by Barnabas | Nov 30, 2022 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Pornography, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure |
Earlier this year I tried to do some informal research through a survey with ex-crossdressers in this community, both Christian and non-Christian. My sample size is very small, so I realize the results are not able to hold up to scientific scrutiny. Nevertheless, the...
by Barnabas | Mar 14, 2022 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
A friend recommended to me the book – “Living with a Transvestite: A Phenomenological Study of Wives and Committed Partners of Transvestite” by Heather Christine Freegard. It is free to download, so any of you can read it! All in all it was a book...
by Barnabas | Dec 8, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
Written by Ewan One of my first memories is of messing around in the attic when I was about 5 years old. I put on a pair of my mum’s boots. I liked the feeling. My brother laughed. Since then I have always had these two parts to me; the bit that loves the...
by Barnabas | Oct 13, 2021 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
As people visit this website and ask for my advice, one of the most common struggles is difficulty during sex in marriage even after crossdressing has been left behind. This can be for many reasons. One of the most common is that wives feel betrayed and hurt after...
by Barnabas | Sep 20, 2021 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Practical Tips, Purges of Clothing, Temptations |
An Atheist’s 12 Steps to Stop Crossdressing Introduction – Some of my readers may wonder why I, Barnabas, as a Christian pastor running this very clearly Christian website, would publish a guest post by an atheist. Let me explain. I have not given up my...
by Barnabas | Aug 18, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Suffering, Testimonies |
This is a post of questions asked by ex-crossdressers in the Christian Recovery Group. They gave these questions to the wives of crossdressers who are in the Private Wives Group , a support and prayer group. The questions are answered by six different wives who have a...
by Barnabas | Jul 23, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
In this post are questions asked by wives in the Private Wives Group which is a support and prayer group for wives of crossdressers. The questions are answered by a few ex-crossdressers from the Christian Recovery Group. The wives have very diverse experiences ranging...
by Barnabas | Jun 23, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Practical Tips, Psychologists |
I recently read the book, “The Paraphilias: Changing Suits in the Evolution of Sexual Interest Paradigms” by J. Paul Fedoroff. I found it not only tremendously fascinating but quite helpful. You don’t all need to go out and purchase the book because the book is...
by Barnabas | Oct 7, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Change is hard. What causes a crossdresser to make a decision to stop crossdressing? And for crossdressers who successfully stop and find happiness without crossdressing in their life, what is it that helped them to change? What is it that allows people to overcome...
by Barnabas | Jun 19, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I know the title of this article might seem a little like an oxymoron, but let me assure you from experience that it is not. If you have struggled with crossdressing addiction, like I have, getting yourself an internet filter for your computer will allow you to...
by Barnabas | Mar 3, 2020 | Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Marriage, Prayer |
By Karen Maybe you found his “stash” of female undergarments, pantyhose, dresses, even wigs and makeup. Or maybe he actually came to you and shared about his crossdressing. However you learned that your husband is a crossdresser, you are probably completely...
by Barnabas | Feb 3, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Marriage, Purges of Clothing, Testimonies |
By David Galatians This is my story of walking on the path to healing and redemption with the Lord. Let me clearly state that I am a Christian. I believe that crossdressing is a sin and is not the plan that God has for us – His children. I have had a person...
by Barnabas | Sep 21, 2019 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
I have written extensively about how crossdressing can become a replacement for one’s girlfriend or wife. See this post. Sometimes this happens because the crossdresser perceives his crossdressed self as more feminine or more attractive than his girlfriend or wife. In...
by Barnabas | Jul 8, 2019 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Sexual Intercourse, Testimonies |
By Karen My husband told me he liked to wear women’s clothes before we were married 16 years ago. I felt honored that he trusted me enough to tell me; I was the only one he’d told. Of course, I was also full of questions and worries: was he gay?...
by Barnabas | Mar 12, 2019 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I would like to recommend the book, Transvestites and Transsexuals: Toward a Theory of Cross-Gender Behavior, written by Richard F. Docter, published in 1988. Before I talk about the book, let me give a warning. Don’t read this book without getting into a...
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