by Barnabas | Dec 11, 2024 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Testimonies |
Written by Guiseppe I spent the entirety of my life serving two gods, as Matthew 6:24 warns against. I had a secret life of crossdressing and gender issues that I kept hidden from a very young age. When I was young, Christ transformed my life in every way possible,...
by Barnabas | May 15, 2020 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
This is strange blog post to write, but at this site we deal with the real issues that confront us, and this is one of them! Some of us have an added burden or difficulty besides the desire to crossdress. Some of us have man boobs, that is, breasts that are bigger...
by Barnabas | May 3, 2019 | Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Transgender |
Autogynephilia is all about love of oneself as a woman. But what if you have chosen not to indulge your autogynephilia? You don’t want to transition. You don’t want to crossdress. You want to learn to be content as a man. You want to learn to love and...
by Barnabas | Jan 8, 2019 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
If you’ve spent much time reading about crossdressing online then you will probably know about the term “purging” and all of the wisdom and lore that has built up around this idea. Purging is basically the act of getting rid of all of your female...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Church, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Dysphoria, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips |
I’ve been thinking about how God made me and what kind of man he made me to be. I think part of the healing that needs to take place in many of us, is that we need to be able to appreciate who God made us to be. We need to accept not only our gender, but our...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I wanted to quickly mention several other practical things you can do to minimize crossdressing temptations in your life. They are all things that have helped me personally. 1. You and your wife could use separate closets – If you have a spare bedroom in your...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations, Transgender |
This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey |
Crossdressers love to play dress-up. I’ve been there. I know the secret pleasures of hours in front of the mirror playing dress-up with clothes that were not meant for me. Ah, but that time is gone. And I don’t miss it. What a fruitless activity. What a...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
One of the important things to do, (that can easily be overlooked), when giving up a crossdressing alter ego, or crossdressing addiction, is to get some new hobbies. Let’s face it, crossdressing was a huge part our lives. For some of us, our crossdressed self...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips, Temptations |
It can be a huge issue for many of us to give into crossdressing while we are away from home and family on business trips. This has not been an issue for me as I don’t travel alone but am usually with other pastors. For me, it was a bigger problem to be home...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to share a great idea. If you want to limit your crossdressing, both your actual practice, and your temptations, then grow a beard or a mustache. Here are a few of my thoughts. On the one hand, having a beard or mustache seems like a stereotypically manly thing...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to suggest a very practical tip in your healing from crossdressing addiction. Simply put, I suggest you take time to exercise, get in shape, and lift weights. It has been really helpful for me to lift weights and do pushups and other exercises that tone and...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Embracing Manhood, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Transgender |
I thought it would be helpful to compile a list of good beginning steps for those who want to give up crossdressing (or other autogynephilic related behaviors) for good. This is just a starting point for those who wish to stop crossdressing completely. Stopping...
by Barnabas | May 9, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Men's Fashion, Sexual Pleasure |
There is a common type of argument in favor of crossdressing that is commonly given, especially to wives or friends of a crossdresser. I think the argument is intentionally deceptive. Unfortunately the argument is quite effective to those who aren’t familiar...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Forgiveness, Guest Posts, Marriage, Masturbation, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
About the Author By Ewan Becoming a Man What do you do to relax on a Friday night? Have a drink? Watch the telly? See a show? Much to the bemusement of my wife, recently I chose to polish my shoes. No matter how hard I tried to explain why I enjoyed it, my wife...
by Barnabas | May 6, 2018 | Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Church, Crossdressing, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Transgender |
Short Synopsis of entire post I believe that 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 indirectly, but clearly, prohibits crossdressing for Christians. (From the New International Version) 2 I praise you for remembering me in everything and for holding to the traditions just as I passed...
by Barnabas | May 5, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Transgender |
Proverbs 14:30 – A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. When we reflect on the nature of crossdressing desires, whether its transvestic fetishism or autogynephilia, we can see that a significant component is envy or coveting....
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