by Barnabas | Apr 28, 2023 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Testimonies |
Written by Simon: While I finished reading “Breaking Free” several months back, several fundamental ideas that speak to my CD life for all these years still resonate and are useful in my ongoing recovery. In this post I want to reflect on some lies...
by Barnabas | Feb 8, 2023 | Crossdressing, Envy, Guest Posts, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Suffering, Testimonies |
Written by Steve: I’ve read through the contents of this website and it’s been extremely encouraging and informative. I very much identify with the recommendation of Buckners article on The Transvestite Career Path which was highly informative and rang so many...
by Barnabas | Nov 11, 2022 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Origins of the Desires |
Written by Simon: I recently started Christian counseling about my sexual brokenness and have begun reading through Breaking Free by Russell Willingham. As is also true for many of those I’ve talked to, this issue has been with us since our youth and...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2022 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
Though we mostly write about autogynephilia and crossdressing as a sexual addiction, we realize that there is great diversity among crossdressers. There are so many different causes, motives, and end goals for crossdressing. But it can be hard to divide crossdressers...
by Barnabas | May 7, 2022 | Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Testimonies |
Written by Apollos Early on in my counseling sessions I revealed to my therapist that I believe that I know why I started to crossdress when I was a child. He suggested that I write a letter to the person that was instrumental in encouraging my...
by Barnabas | Jul 23, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
In this post are questions asked by wives in the Private Wives Group which is a support and prayer group for wives of crossdressers. The questions are answered by a few former crossdressers from the Christian Recovery Group. The wives have very diverse experiences...
by Barnabas | Jun 23, 2021 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Medications, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Practical Tips, Psychologists |
I appreciated the book, “The Paraphilias: Changing Suits in the Evolution of Sexual Interest Paradigms” by J. Paul Fedoroff. I found it not only tremendously fascinating but quite helpful. You don’t all need to go out and purchase the book because the book is...
by Barnabas | May 15, 2020 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
This is strange blog post to write, but at this site we deal with the real issues that confront us, and this is one of them! Some of us have an added burden or difficulty besides the desire to crossdress. Some of us have man boobs, that is, breasts that are bigger...
by Barnabas | Nov 15, 2019 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Origins of the Desires, Suffering, Testimonies, Transgender |
I wholeheartedly suggest watching the film made by Pure Passion called Tranzformed: Finding Peace With Your God-Given Gender. There are 15 different people who give testimonies throughout this documentary film, and I found it incredibly moving. They are some of the...
by Barnabas | Sep 21, 2019 | Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
I have written extensively about how crossdressing is or can become a replacement for one’s girlfriend or wife. See these posts – Autogynephilia Versus Heterosexuality and Becoming the Woman my Wife is Not and Crossdressing without sexual pleasure. Often the...
by Barnabas | Aug 5, 2019 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Prayer, Temptations |
This may be surprising to some of you, but one of the most common questions I’ve been asked since I started this website many years ago is: “Did demons cause my crossdressing desires?” Or other related questions like: “Am I possessed by a demon...
by Barnabas | May 3, 2019 | Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Transgender |
Autogynephilia is all about love of oneself as a woman. But what if you have chosen not to indulge your autogynephilia? You don’t want to transition. You don’t want to crossdress. You want to learn to be content as a man. You want to learn to love and...
by Barnabas | Mar 12, 2019 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I would like to recommend the book, Transvestites and Transsexuals: Toward a Theory of Cross-Gender Behavior, written by Richard F. Docter, published in 1988. Before I talk about the book, let me give a warning. Don’t read this book without getting into a...
by Barnabas | Sep 16, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Law and Policy, Origins of the Desires, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I would like to recommend the book Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcey. You could read some good book reviews here and here. Although there is only one chapter on transgender issues, the whole book is very important. Pearcey gives a very clear and strong critique of the...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Dysphoria, Homosexuality, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Temptations |
A common and understandable question that many of us wrestle with is, “was I born this way?” Is my autogynephilia biologically caused? Did something go wrong with exposure to hormones in the womb that made me more feminine than normal men? We long for...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I wanted to quickly mention several other practical things you can do to minimize crossdressing temptations in your life. They are all things that have helped me personally. 1. You and your wife could use separate closets – If you have a spare bedroom in your...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I want to strongly recommend Mark Yarhouse’s book called “Understanding Gender Dysphoria.” You can read about Dr. Yarhouse – here. He is an expert on matters of sexual identity, and is well respected by both Christians and non-Christians. To be honest, I did not agree...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Marriage, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Singleness |
One thing that has helped me a lot is purposefully cultivating my desire and attraction to my wife. I specifically try to do so by pondering Bible passages like Proverbs 5:18-19 and keeping them running through my mind throughout the day: 18 May your fountain be...
by Barnabas | Aug 14, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I read a book called – Divine Sex: A Compelling Vision for Christian Relationship in a Hypersexualized Age by Jonathan Grant – and I wanted to share with you some quotes and reflections related to crossdressing and hormones / neurotransmitters. In general,...
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