by Barnabas | Oct 13, 2021 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
As people visit this website and ask for my advice, one of the most common struggles is difficulty during sex in marriage even after crossdressing has been left behind. This can be for many reasons. One of the most common is that wives feel betrayed and hurt after...
by Barnabas | May 5, 2021 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Identity, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Pornography, Psychologists, Transgender |
By Simon Peter: Like most of those who have struggled with the affliction of crossdressing, my own personal experience began when I was about 5 or 6 years old. It was spurred on by some form or another of playing “dress-up” with my sister, and being...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Temptations, Transgender |
In this post I will make some general observations about how the church should respond and deal with hard issues like homosexuality, crossdressing, and transsexualism. But more importantly, this post is about how the church should respond to the people struggling with...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender Fiction |
In 2 Samuel chapters 11-12, we read the story of David committing adultery with Bathsheba. And then, to cover up his sin, he found a way to have Uriah, Bathsheba’s husband, killed. Finally, God sent the prophet Nathan to challenge and rebuke David. In the end,...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations |
Because of the nature of addiction, you cannot fight your addiction alone. You will need help. I’ve said this so many times on this blog, but you need to find an accountability partner! In this post I want to talk about the merits of having an accountability...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Pornography, Temptations |
This short video/article by John Piper is a very helpful reality check in our battle with sexual sins – You Can Say No to Porn. We often feel out of control with our sexual desires. We feel that it is impossible to resist. We feel overwhelmed by the temptations....
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Many people online have made the claim that I advocate suppressing your crossdressing desires. I do not actually make that claim. It is not healthy. We must acknowledge that those desires are there, and consciously choose not to act on them. If we just try to ignore...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Masturbation, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure |
I have looked at a lot (thousands and thousands) of crossdressing photos on the internet over my life (and I deeply regret it). One thing I have noticed from pictures of active crossdressers as well as pictures of one-time crossdressers, is the number of sexual poses....
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Envy, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I was recently asked in a comment to explain my reasons why I believe crossdressing is sinful, or why it is harmful. It’s a good question. While my whole website is essentially about this with many articles, it is a bit overwhelming for someone to jump in and...
by Barnabas | Jun 14, 2018 | Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I am frustrated with myself and other crossdressers for expecting or even ever once having a hope for our wives to act as lesbians. If you are a Christian and believe homosexual behavior is sinful, than trying to get your wife to act this way with you (while you are...
by Barnabas | Jun 13, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure |
This is a very helpful and enlightening video. It is called The Great Porn Experiment. The video is about the effect that pornography is having on men and on the wider culture. As many of you probably struggle with pornography in addition to crossdressing, I think...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
By lust I mean a strong sexual desire and craving, which can of course be sinful as Jesus talks about. But I’m using the word lust in a more neutral way, as basically strong sexual desire and pleasure. When we strongly desire our wives and have sexual pleasure...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Whew, this is a heavy and personal topic, but I think it needs to be addressed. Is masturbation okay for a Christian? Or is it sinful? This is a long debate and I don’t have all the answers, but I’ve thought a lot about. In fact, my views about it have...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
I’ve been reading lately about science. I love learning and I also think it’s good for pastors like me to keep on learning about science, even if some of it goes over my head. I’ve been reflecting on some scientific findings that relate to our...
by Barnabas | Jun 7, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Idolatry, Pornography, Prayer, Temptations, Transgender |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | May 12, 2018 | Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
It can be a good exercise to compared the path and steps required to engage in crossdressing versus the path and steps required to have sexual intimacy with your spouse. We have to be honest. In many ways, crossdressing is the cheaper and easier path to sexual...
by Barnabas | May 10, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Dreams, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
In this post, I am going to talk about how I think crossdressing can easily become idolatry, in the same way that money or other good or neutral things in life can easily become an idol. This is different from me saying that crossdressing is always necessarily...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Forgiveness, Guest Posts, Marriage, Masturbation, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
About the Author By Ewan Becoming a Man What do you do to relax on a Friday night? Have a drink? Watch the telly? See a show? Much to the bemusement of my wife, recently I chose to polish my shoes. No matter how hard I tried to explain why I enjoyed it, my wife...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Pornography, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
For most of us who crossdressed in the past, there was some conditioning going on. We desired to crossdress, but the more we engaged in it, the more we desired it. We got some sexual pleasure from crossdressing at first, but the more we crossdressed, the more pleasure...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
Think about what you feel after you finish crossdressing. I’m sure it’s not like this for all crossdressers, so please withhold your judgment if this doesn’t fit for you. But for most of us the feelings of shame, disgust, and feeling dirty come right...
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