by Barnabas | Feb 13, 2025 | Addiction, Bible, Guest Posts, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Written by NHA: An effective approach when temptation strikes Ugh. You summed up the courage and wherewithal to do the right thing. You’ve purged all your beautiful clothes again. They’re all in the trash bin, and you made sure they’re irretrievable. Yet, the...
by Barnabas | Jan 1, 2025 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Practical Tips, Temptations |
“I’m curious how the trans person looks in that news article. I’ll just look at it quick then close the window.” “I’m just curious what might come up if I search on google for ‘men in dresses.’ I’ll just look at...
by Barnabas | Sep 7, 2024 | Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Written by Ewan: Think back to a time you were tempted. If crossdressing memories are too raw, think of something else. When you were deciding whether to act sinfully or not, did you have enough time to pause and think through what you really wanted? This post gives a...
by Barnabas | Jul 25, 2024 | Crossdressing, Marriage, Practical Tips, Temptations |
In this post, I’d like to briefly share a simple strategy for fighting temptation to crossdress. I have in mind the experience of the majority of the guys in my recovery group. Most of these men are married, and they have already purged their female clothing....
by Barnabas | Jun 20, 2024 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Written by Ewan So, you want to act out, do you? Here’s an assertion that is worth examining: in any given moment, we only do what we want to do. At first sight it does not appear so, because so often there are things we have to do whether we want to or...
by Barnabas | May 15, 2024 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Identity, Idolatry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Singleness, Suffering, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
If you are here reading this post, maybe you are feeling utterly depressed because of your autogynephilia or gender dysphoria. Maybe you are full of guilt, or maybe you feel anxiety and great pain from unfulfilled longing. Or maybe you are feeling hopeless and full of...
by Barnabas | Mar 19, 2024 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Pornography, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations |
The longer I have this website and try my best to care for and help other men, the more I realize the importance of making a distinction between a harmful sexual addiction and an unwanted sexual orientation. The two are very different things, and yet I would like to...
by Barnabas | Mar 13, 2023 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Filters and Security, Guest Posts, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Written by Ewan: Last time we looked at the relationship between relapse and hope. I discussed how there is hope in what we can learn from them. Hope can inspire, hope can drive us, hope can motivate and fill us with a good urge to act. To do something! The...
by Barnabas | Feb 22, 2023 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Pornography, Practical Tips, Transgender |
I’d like to outline one practical tool that could be helpful for some people in their recovery process. I got the idea a decade ago from a previous accountability partner. He used to struggle with pornography addiction. When he would have a failure with looking...
by Barnabas | Jan 10, 2023 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I’ve written extensively already about how a large aspect of our crossdressing is really about lust and sexual pleasure. But there is an aspect of crossdressing that I think is less about lust and more about romance or companionship with the other, the opposite...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2022 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
Over the years I have read extensively about crossdressing and talked with many crossdressers, and have found that there is great diversity among crossdressers, especially in regard to the various reasons that crossdressers engage in crossdressing. There are so many...
by Barnabas | May 7, 2022 | Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Testimonies |
Written by Apollos Early on in my counseling sessions I revealed to my therapist that I believe that I know why I started to crossdress when I was a child. He suggested that I write a letter to the person that was instrumental in encouraging my...
by Barnabas | Oct 13, 2021 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
As people visit this website and ask for my advice, one of the most common struggles reported is difficulty during sex in marriage even after crossdressing has been left behind. This can be for many reasons. One of the most common is that wives feel betrayed and hurt...
by Barnabas | Sep 20, 2021 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Practical Tips, Purges of Clothing, Temptations |
An Atheist’s 12 Steps to Stop Crossdressing Introduction – Some of my readers may wonder why I, Barnabas, as a Christian pastor running this very clearly Christian website, would publish a guest post by an atheist. Let me explain. I have not given up my...
by Barnabas | Jul 23, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
In this post are questions asked by wives in the Private Wives Group which is a support and prayer group for wives of crossdressers. The questions are answered by a few former crossdressers from the Christian Recovery Group. The wives have very diverse experiences...
by Barnabas | Jun 23, 2021 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Homosexuality, Marriage, Medications, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Practical Tips, Psychologists |
I appreciated the book, “The Paraphilias: Changing Suits in the Evolution of Sexual Interest Paradigms” by J. Paul Fedoroff. I found it not only tremendously fascinating but quite helpful. You don’t all need to go out and purchase the book because the book is...
by Barnabas | Feb 3, 2021 | Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Practical Tips, Psychologists, Temptations |
Written by Ewan It isn’t easy to open up and talk about crossdressing. That sense of shame that so many of us feel, coupled with not being taught how to talk, as well as the many secret corners of our hearts that we just don’t know how to access (or...
by Barnabas | Dec 30, 2020 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Guest Posts, Practical Tips, Temptations |
About the Author By Ewan Internet Filters: You Can’t Put a Price on Purity For me, crossdressing comes in waves. Over time, I start looking things up on the web. It usually starts with clothes (dresses and shoes). But at some point those desires become...
by Barnabas | Oct 7, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Change is hard. What causes a crossdresser to make a decision to stop crossdressing? And for crossdressers who successfully stop and find happiness without crossdressing in their lives, what is it that helped them to change? What is it that allows people to overcome...
by Barnabas | Jun 19, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I know the title of this article might seem a little like an oxymoron, but let me assure you from experience that it is not. If you have struggled with crossdressing addiction, like I have, getting yourself an internet filter for your computer will allow you to...
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