Thinking about Suicide? There is Hope

Thinking about Suicide? There is Hope

If you are here reading this post, maybe you are feeling utterly depressed because of your autogynephilia or gender dysphoria. Maybe you are full of guilt, or maybe you feel anxiety and great pain from unfulfilled longing. Or maybe you are feeling hopeless and full of...
Book Recommendation – Autoheterosexual: Attracted to Being the Other Sex

Book Recommendation – Autoheterosexual: Attracted to Being the Other Sex

I would like to recommend the book Autoheterosexual: Attracted to Being the Other Sex written by Phil Illy, himself an autoheterosexual, more specifically someone who experiences autogynephilia, just like I do. (I recommend this book with some strong reservations,...

Ray Blanchard – History of Autogynephilia

Most of my posts on this website are written from my Christian perspective on crossdressing, but sometimes it is helpful to delve into what secular researchers and psychiatrists have discovered about crossdressing. I’d like to share here an article written by...

Book Recommendation: Transvestites and Transsexuals

I would like to recommend the book, Transvestites and Transsexuals: Toward a Theory of Cross-Gender Behavior, written by Richard F. Docter, published in 1988. Before I talk about the book, let me give a warning. Don’t read this book without getting into a...

The Toughest Time in History

Many of us today might feel like we are stuck in the worst period of history given our particular struggles. At no time in history have crossdressing and transgenderism been more accepted and celebrated than they are today. Even many people who don’t experience gender...
Giving Pastoral Care to a Crossdresser or Person with Gender Dysphoria

Giving Pastoral Care to a Crossdresser or Person with Gender Dysphoria

I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
Book Recommendation – Understanding Gender Dysphoria

Book Recommendation – Understanding Gender Dysphoria

I want to strongly recommend Mark Yarhouse’s book called “Understanding Gender Dysphoria.” You can read about Dr. Yarhouse – here. He is an expert on matters of sexual identity, and is well respected by both Christians and non-Christians. To be honest, I did not agree...

Analogies to Transgender

Analogies are never fail proof. They always break down at some point because by definition, they compare two things that are alike in some ways but also not alike in some ways. But they are still helpful, and in this case particularly powerful in my opinion. A lot of...
How do I tell my wife, a friend, or a pastor about my crossdressing?

How do I tell my wife, a friend, or a pastor about my crossdressing?

I have told quite a number of people in my life about my crossdressing addiction, both professionals, and also close family and friends. So I’d like to share some wisdom about how to best do this and some general tips. In every case of telling someone, things...

Crossdressing and Hormone Release

I read a book called – Divine Sex: A Compelling Vision for Christian Relationship in a Hypersexualized Age by Jonathan Grant – and I wanted to share with you some quotes and reflections related to crossdressing and hormones / neurotransmitters. In general,...

Book Recommendation – The Man Who Would Be Queen

I recommend to you all the book, “The Man Who Would be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism,” by J. Michael Bailey. It is FREE to read online. I thought it was an excellent read and is definitely one of the more helpful books/articles...
Book Recommendation – When Harry Became Sally

Book Recommendation – When Harry Became Sally

I recently finished reading the book, When Harry Became Sally, by Ryan Anderson of the Heritage Foundation. This is a really well written book that examines the “transgender moment” our country has been in. Though I’m not thrilled about the title to this...

Transgenderism is a psychological problem

Those in the crossdressing community love to argue that crossdressing is a harmless hobby. Although other people in the culture find it weird, they just need more time to get used to it and see that it actually can be a fun hobby if not done to excess. Or they say...