Orientation and Addiction

Orientation and Addiction

The longer I have this website and try my best to care for and help other men, the more I realize the importance of making a distinction between a harmful sexual addiction and an unwanted sexual orientation. The two are very different things, and yet I would like to...
Book Recommendation – Autoheterosexual: Attracted to Being the Other Sex

Book Recommendation – Autoheterosexual: Attracted to Being the Other Sex

I would like to recommend the book Autoheterosexual: Attracted to Being the Other Sex written by Phil Illy, himself an autoheterosexual, more specifically someone who experiences autogynephilia, just like I do. (I recommend this book with some strong reservations,...

Ray Blanchard – History of Autogynephilia

Most of my posts on this website are written from my Christian perspective on crossdressing, but sometimes it is helpful to delve into what secular researchers and psychiatrists have discovered about crossdressing. I’d like to share here an article written by...
Guest Post – Breaking Free, Part 2: Top 10 Lies of the Crossdressing Addict

Guest Post – Breaking Free, Part 2: Top 10 Lies of the Crossdressing Addict

Written by Simon:   While I finished reading “Breaking Free” several months back, several fundamental ideas that speak to my CD life for all these years still resonate and are useful in my ongoing recovery.  In this post I want to reflect on some lies...
Guest Post – Breaking Free, Part 2: Top 10 Lies of the Crossdressing Addict

Guest Post – Breaking Free, Part 1: The Myth of No-Fault Victimization

Written by Simon:   I recently started Christian counseling about my sexual brokenness and have begun reading through Breaking Free by Russell Willingham.  As is also true for many of those I’ve talked to, this issue has been with us since our youth and...
Enjoy Freedom: Get an Internet Filter Now!

Enjoy Freedom: Get an Internet Filter Now!

I know the title of this article might seem a little like an oxymoron, but let me assure you from experience that it is not. If you have struggled with crossdressing addiction, like I have, getting yourself an internet filter for your computer will allow you to...
Dealing with Man Boobs

Dealing with Man Boobs

This is strange blog post to write, but at this site we deal with the real issues that confront us, and this is one of them! Some of us have an added burden or difficulty besides the desire to crossdress. Some of us have man boobs, that is, breasts that are bigger...
Watch the Film – Tranzformed

Watch the Film – Tranzformed

I wholeheartedly suggest watching the film made by Pure Passion called Tranzformed: Finding Peace With Your God-Given Gender. There are 15 different people who give testimonies throughout this documentary film, and I found it incredibly moving. They are some of the...

Book Recommendation: Transvestites and Transsexuals

I would like to recommend the book, Transvestites and Transsexuals: Toward a Theory of Cross-Gender Behavior, written by Richard F. Docter, published in 1988. Before I talk about the book, let me give a warning. Don’t read this book without getting into a...

The Toughest Time in History

Many of us today might feel like we are stuck in the worst period of history given our particular struggles. At no time in history have crossdressing and transgenderism been more accepted and celebrated than they are today. Even many people who don’t experience gender...
Book Recommendation – Love Thy Body

Book Recommendation – Love Thy Body

I would like to recommend the book Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcey. You could read some good book reviews here and here. Although there is only one chapter on transgender issues, the whole book is very important. Pearcey gives a very clear and strong critique of the...
Giving Pastoral Care to a Crossdresser or Person with Gender Dysphoria

Giving Pastoral Care to a Crossdresser or Person with Gender Dysphoria

I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
Book Recommendation – Understanding Gender Dysphoria

Book Recommendation – Understanding Gender Dysphoria

I want to strongly recommend Mark Yarhouse’s book called “Understanding Gender Dysphoria.” You can read about Dr. Yarhouse – here. He is an expert on matters of sexual identity, and is well respected by both Christians and non-Christians. To be honest, I did not agree...

Get an Accountability Partner

Because of the nature of addiction, you cannot fight your addiction alone. You will need help. I’ve said this so many times on this blog, but you need to find an accountability partner! In this post I want to talk about the merits of having an accountability...

Analogies to Transgender

Analogies are never fail proof. They always break down at some point because by definition, they compare two things that are alike in some ways but also not alike in some ways. But they are still helpful, and in this case particularly powerful in my opinion. A lot of...