by Barnabas | Jun 14, 2023 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Most of my posts on this website are written from my Christian perspective on crossdressing, but sometimes it is helpful to delve into what secular researchers and psychiatrists have discovered about crossdressing. I’d like to share here an article written by...
by Barnabas | May 22, 2023 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Marriage, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
Written by Norvic Over the last few months, I’ve discovered a new favourite Bible book- the Song of Songs. It’s not one that tends to be preached or read as much as others, but as I’ve studied it, I’ve become convinced that it’s a book that deserves the...
by Barnabas | Oct 13, 2021 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
As people visit this website and ask for my advice, one of the most common struggles is difficulty during sex in marriage even after crossdressing has been left behind. This can be for many reasons. One of the most common is that wives feel betrayed and hurt after...
by Barnabas | Jul 23, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
In this post are questions asked by wives in the Private Wives Group which is a support and prayer group for wives of crossdressers. The questions are answered by a few ex-crossdressers from the Christian Recovery Group. The wives have very diverse experiences ranging...
by Barnabas | Jul 8, 2019 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Sexual Intercourse, Testimonies |
By Karen My husband told me he liked to wear women’s clothes before we were married 16 years ago. I felt honored that he trusted me enough to tell me; I was the only one he’d told. Of course, I was also full of questions and worries: was he gay?...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender Fiction |
In 2 Samuel chapters 11-12, we read the story of David committing adultery with Bathsheba. And then, to cover up his sin, he found a way to have Uriah, Bathsheba’s husband, killed. Finally, God sent the prophet Nathan to challenge and rebuke David. In the end,...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations |
Because of the nature of addiction, you cannot fight your addiction alone. You will need help. I’ve said this so many times on this blog, but you need to find an accountability partner! In this post I want to talk about the merits of having an accountability...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Marriage, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
One thing that has helped me a lot is purposefully cultivating my desire and attraction to my wife. I specifically try to do so by pondering Bible passages like Proverbs 5:18-19 and keeping them running through my mind throughout the day: 18 May your fountain be...
by Barnabas | Aug 14, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I read a book called – Divine Sex: A Compelling Vision for Christian Relationship in a Hypersexualized Age by Jonathan Grant – and I wanted to share with you some quotes and reflections related to crossdressing and hormones / neurotransmitters. In general,...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’d like to share one tiny piece of advice about something you can do to help you in your healing from crossdressing. This is something that can help us realize how wrong and strange crossdressing is, and also will help you at the specific times that temptation...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’m going to quoting a lengthy section from a book by Tim Keller, called Preaching: Communicating Faith in an Age of Skepticism. He brilliantly picks apart the modern ideas of our culture, including the myth of “choosing to be yourself.” He begins by...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Sexual Intercourse, Transgender |
I wanted to share an article here about homosexuality. It’s seems a bit off topic, but it’s not. Through this article, I want to make an important point about crossdressing and transsexualism. The article is called Not that kind of homosexuality by Kevin...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Envy, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I was recently asked in a comment to explain my reasons why I believe crossdressing is sinful, or why it is harmful. It’s a good question. While my whole website is essentially about this with many articles, it is a bit overwhelming for someone to jump in and...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Dreams, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Dreams have been one of the biggest problems I have had over the years in giving up crossdressing and trying to keep from fantasizing about it. I know I am not alone. If you are like me, you can go months without thinking about crossdressing during the day, but then...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Dreams, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This is a pretty graphic topic, but it seems practical enough for me to talk about, because dealing with these issues is a reality for most of us. First of all, if you want my thoughts on masturbation, see my long post on it here. I’ll try not to repeat myself...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
By lust I mean a strong sexual desire and craving, which can of course be sinful as Jesus talks about. But I’m using the word lust in a more neutral way, as basically strong sexual desire and pleasure. When we strongly desire our wives and have sexual pleasure...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Whew, this is a heavy and personal topic, but I think it needs to be addressed. Is masturbation okay for a Christian? Or is it sinful? This is a long debate and I don’t have all the answers, but I’ve thought a lot about. In fact, my views about it have...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Embracing Manhood, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Transgender |
I thought it would be helpful to compile a list of good beginning steps for those who want to give up crossdressing for good. This is just a starting point for those who wish to stop crossdressing completely. Stopping crossdressing altogether is a long process, and...
by Barnabas | May 12, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Envy, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Intercourse |
I’m sure there are about 20 different links with information like this, but I used the one I found most quickly – here. It’s not my intention to attack this website. Not at all. I don’t know the person who made the site. I can tell that they...
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