by Nick Smith | Jul 22, 2026 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Practical Tips, Suffering, Temptations |
I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. For I know that nothing good...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2026 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Marriage, Pornography, Practical Tips, Purges of Clothing, Temptations |
This post is about sexual addiction. For a definition of sexual addiction see the Cleveland Clinic article here. For a better understanding of sexual addiction related to autogynephilia and transvestic fetishism, see these posts: Orientation and Addiction, and...
by Barnabas | Mar 30, 2026 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Gender Dysphoria, My Personal Journey, Suffering, Temptations |
Take some time this week to deeply reflect on the wonder and power of Jesus’ resurrection. It is not just some theoretical principle that we have to believe in. It is a reality which should fundamentally change our lives! Something to reflect on daily, not just...
by Barnabas | Dec 26, 2025 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Envy, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Idolatry, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
There is a lot of debate in online forums about whether indulging autogynephilic desires is addictive by nature or not. Some argue that there is nothing wrong or unhealthy about autogynephilia as a sexual orientation when men engage in autogynephilic behaviors in a...
by Barnabas | Jun 19, 2025 | Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Pornography, Prayer, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations |
Don’t Do It: Stopping Addiction at First Sight By NHA: There you are, minding your business, and suddenly, a wayward thought arises. You are being tempted. You prayed the past was past. You promised God you would not go down that path again. Yet, a voice,...
by Barnabas | Feb 13, 2025 | Addiction, Bible, Guest Posts, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Written by NHA: An effective approach when temptation strikes Ugh. You summed up the courage and wherewithal to do the right thing. You’ve purged all your beautiful clothes again. They’re all in the trash bin, and you made sure they’re irretrievable. Yet, the...
by Barnabas | Jan 23, 2025 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Temptations |
Written by NHA: A small nudge, not a big shove, brings change I find the ending of a year a fascinating thing. Ceaseless time suddenly halts! The clocks tick away, 12:59:59 December 31 becomes 12:00:00 January 1, yet one year comes at once crashing and...
by Barnabas | Jan 1, 2025 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Practical Tips, Temptations |
“I’m curious how the trans person looks in that news article. I’ll just look at it quick then close the window.” “I’m just curious what might come up if I search on google for ‘men in dresses.’ I’ll just look at...
by Barnabas | Sep 7, 2024 | Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Written by Ewan: Think back to a time you were tempted. If crossdressing memories are too raw, think of something else. When you were deciding whether to act sinfully or not, did you have enough time to pause and think through what you really wanted? This post gives a...
by Barnabas | Aug 17, 2024 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Marriage, Temptations |
In my interactions with recovering crossdressers and their wives over the years, a certain issue has come up frequently. At times a wife may think she should stop dressing in a feminine way for fear of triggering her husband’s crossdressing desires or arousing his...
by Barnabas | Jul 25, 2024 | Crossdressing, Marriage, Practical Tips, Temptations |
In this post, I’d like to briefly share a simple strategy for fighting temptation to crossdress. I have in mind the experience of the majority of the guys in my recovery group. Most of these men are married, and they have already purged their female clothing....
by Barnabas | Jun 20, 2024 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Written by Ewan So, you want to act out, do you? Here’s an assertion that is worth examining: in any given moment, we only do what we want to do. At first sight it does not appear so, because so often there are things we have to do whether we want to or...
by Barnabas | May 15, 2024 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Identity, Idolatry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Singleness, Suffering, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
If you are here reading this post, maybe you are feeling utterly depressed because of your autogynephilia or gender dysphoria. Maybe you are full of guilt, or maybe you feel anxiety and great pain from unfulfilled longing. Or maybe you are feeling hopeless and full of...
by Barnabas | Apr 26, 2024 | Addiction, Bible, Guest Posts, Suffering, Temptations |
By NHA: The valley of the shadow…Psalm 23:4. Painting by Frederic Edwin Church. ————————— I’ve been fighting the toughest battle of my life. Weak spots in my defense system have been exposed, and as a result, I have been experiencing anxiety on a level...
by Barnabas | Mar 19, 2024 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Pornography, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations |
The longer I have tried to care for and help other men, the more I realize the importance of making a distinction between a harmful sexual addiction and an unwanted sexual orientation (for an explanation about why I am using the term “sexual orientation”,...
by Barnabas | Dec 19, 2023 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Suffering, Temptations |
Written by Simon I’ve been working through some key ideas I’ve considered these past 14 months in my efforts to stay sober and continue to walk out of the CD darkness. Several of them come from the book Unwanted by Jay Stringer where he makes the...
by Barnabas | Mar 13, 2023 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Filters and Security, Guest Posts, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Written by Ewan: Last time we looked at the relationship between relapse and hope. I discussed how there is hope in what we can learn from them. Hope can inspire, hope can drive us, hope can motivate and fill us with a good urge to act. To do something! The...
by Barnabas | Jan 10, 2023 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I’ve written extensively already about how a large aspect of our crossdressing is really about lust and sexual pleasure. But there is an aspect of crossdressing that I think is less about lust and more about romance or companionship with the other, the opposite...
by Barnabas | Sep 22, 2022 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Identity, Temptations |
By Simon I have read Barnabas’ blog post on What Causes People to Change and I’ve been thinking about rewards and consequences for promoting change in our behavior. I also read through the Transvestic Career Path and thought about the fourth...
by Barnabas | Mar 29, 2022 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Prayer, Temptations |
Written by TJ I am writing this as a warning both to myself, and anyone who desires to read this. I have prayed for the proper words to get the necessary points across, so please bear with me. I am all too aware that my words have no power or impact – unless...
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