by Barnabas | May 15, 2024 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Identity, Idolatry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Suffering, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
If you are here reading this post, maybe you are feeling utterly depressed because of your autogynephilia or gender dysphoria. Maybe you are full of guilt, or maybe you feel anxiety and great pain from unfulfilled longing. Or maybe you are feeling hopeless and full of...
by Barnabas | Jan 9, 2024 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I would like to recommend the book Autoheterosexual: Attracted to Being the Other Sex written by Phil Illy, himself an autoheterosexual, more specifically someone who experiences autogynephilia, just like I do. (I recommend this book with some strong reservations,...
by Barnabas | Aug 15, 2023 | Additional Resources, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Transgender |
Written by Jack Jason Evert is a Christian chastity speaker who has been speaking at high schools and churches across the country and overseas for 20 years. He has spoken to youth at over 3,000 institutions worldwide. In his ministry, he has been seeing the...
by Barnabas | Jun 14, 2023 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Most of my posts on this website are written from my Christian perspective on crossdressing, but sometimes it is helpful to delve into what secular researchers and psychiatrists have discovered about crossdressing. I’d like to share here an article written by...
by Barnabas | Feb 22, 2023 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Pornography, Practical Tips, Transgender |
I’d like to outline one practical tool that could be helpful for some people in their recovery process. I got the idea a decade ago from a previous accountability partner. He used to struggle with pornography addiction. When he would have a failure with looking...
by Barnabas | Aug 15, 2022 | Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Testimonies, Transgender |
Written by Deborah From my earliest memories I wanted to be a boy and despised everything to do with being a girl. I dressed in boys clothes, played with my brothers’ toys and rode my bmx with them. Nothing changed in my teens. I didn’t see anything wrong with...
by Barnabas | Apr 13, 2022 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Identity, Testimonies, Transgender |
By Justin One of my most vivid memories as a pubescent boy struggling with gender dysphoria was being alone at night laying in my bed and being so upset with that fact that I had been born a boy. I wished so hard many nights that I would wake up and my life...
by Barnabas | Jul 23, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
In this post are questions asked by wives in the Private Wives Group which is a support and prayer group for wives of crossdressers. The questions are answered by a few ex-crossdressers from the Christian Recovery Group. The wives have very diverse experiences ranging...
by Barnabas | May 5, 2021 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Identity, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Pornography, Psychologists, Transgender |
By Simon Peter: Like most of those who have struggled with the affliction of crossdressing, my own personal experience began when I was about 5 or 6 years old. It was spurred on by some form or another of playing “dress-up” with my sister, and being...
by Barnabas | Apr 11, 2021 | Bible, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Transgender |
1 Peter 3:15-16 – But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak...
by Barnabas | Aug 13, 2020 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Homosexuality, Psychologists, Suffering, Testimonies, Transgender |
Radical Cultural Shift We live in strange times. Not long ago, people who tried to overcome addictions were encouraged and their testimonies celebrated. People who fought against harmful gender stereotypes and sought to accept themselves for who they are were formerly...
by Barnabas | Nov 15, 2019 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Origins of the Desires, Suffering, Testimonies, Transgender |
I wholeheartedly suggest watching the film made by Pure Passion called Tranzformed: Finding Peace With Your God-Given Gender. There are 15 different people who give testimonies throughout this documentary film, and I found it incredibly moving. They are some of the...
by Barnabas | May 3, 2019 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Transgender |
For those in our community who have given up crossdressing or who are trying to heal from gender dysphoria, one of the common questions asked is: “what does it look like for me to live as a man?” It’s straightforward to say that we should stop...
by Barnabas | Mar 12, 2019 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I would like to recommend the book, Transvestites and Transsexuals: Toward a Theory of Cross-Gender Behavior, written by Richard F. Docter, published in 1988. Before I talk about the book, let me give a warning. Don’t read this book without getting into a...
by Barnabas | Feb 24, 2019 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Identity, Law and Policy, Marriage, Psychologists, Suffering, Transgender |
Many of us today might feel like we are stuck in the worst period of history given our particular struggles. At no time in history have crossdressing and transgenderism been more accepted and celebrated than they are today. Even many people who don’t experience gender...
by Barnabas | Sep 16, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Homosexuality, Identity, Paraphilias, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Definition of Terms The first thing to note is that these terms are defined differently by different people. Furthermore, as our culture is changing, these terms are changing in their definitions. To make matters even more complicated, as culture changes some of these...
by Barnabas | Sep 16, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Law and Policy, Origins of the Desires, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I would like to recommend the book Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcey. You could read some good book reviews here and here. Although there is only one chapter on transgender issues, the whole book is very important. Pearcey gives a very clear and strong critique of the...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Temptations, Transgender |
In this post I will make some general observations about how the church should respond and deal with hard issues like homosexuality, crossdressing, and transsexualism. But more importantly, this post is about how the church should respond to the people struggling with...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Additional Resources, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Identity, Transgender |
Listen to this good podcast by Pastor John Piper – He or She? How Should I Refer to Transgender Friends? What do we do when a transgender friend wants us to call them a new name, and we know that the new name does not fit their actual sex? Or imagine you are a...
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