Crossdressers love to play dress-up. I’ve been there. I know the secret pleasures of hours in front of the mirror playing dress-up with clothes that were not meant for me. Ah, but that time is gone. And I don’t miss it. What a fruitless activity. What a powerful addiction that was. It kept me in bondage for so many years. No longer.

Now I play a different kind of dress-up. Now I seek to clothe myself with Christ. No more clothing myself with bras and panties and living in the delusion that I could make myself a woman just by changing the outer clothing. That is stupid and wrong. Now I clothe myself with Christ, and clothe myself with the virtues he wants me to have.

Romans 13:14Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.

Galatians 3:27For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ.

Colossians 3:12Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

Clothing myself with Christ is a metaphor to be sure, but not completely. When we become a Christian, Jesus the Christ truly comes to live in us. And when he lives in us, he changes us from the inside out. He gives us his own perfect righteousness so that we can have salvation, and then he begins to transform our lives by the Holy Spirit. We then begin to actually look like him, not perfectly, no, not until he comes again in glory, but we do, in some small but concrete ways, begin to look more like Jesus.

For the Christian, this is what real beauty is all about, for both men and women. For any of us, crossdressers or not, we are not to be so concerned with our outward physical appearance, spending hours in front of the mirror trying to look beautiful and obtain some cultural ideal. We are supposed to be more concerned that we are following Jesus and living the way he wants us to live.

1 Timothy 2:9-109 I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10 but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.

1 Peter 3:3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.

1 Peter 5:5-75 Young men, in the same way be submissive to those who are older. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”  6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

The beauty of living like Jesus bears fruit in making the world a better place, and makes us more into the people God created us to be. My brothers (and sisters), let us together strive for this kind of beauty. It begins by trusting Jesus as your savior and inviting him into your life, and then let the joy of salvation and forgiveness for your sins transform you, so that you delight to show him your thanksgiving by living a transformed life.

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