I would assume that many of my readers out there are skeptical that healing from crossdressing addiction is possible. Some might say, “sure maybe the author of the blog could stop crossdressing just because he is a pastor, but for most people they will not have enough motivation to really quit and still be happy.” I’m not sure exactly what people say, but this short post is to give some hope that I am not alone.
In our email prayer group we’ve had between 100 and 250 men join over the years. I can’t even keep track. People have come and gone. But I want to point out that there are some people who have officially left our group and told us why. And their reason is that they got their crossdressing under control. They found good healing in their heart, mind, and body from our Lord Jesus with this issue of crossdressing. See my guest posts page for some of their testimonies.
Is healing possible? Yes it is! I am not the only one by far. There are men who deal with this sin of crossdressing and get it out of their life, who never share their secret with others and never share their story online. And then some have left our prayer group specifically because crossdressing was no longer a big struggle for them. They were able to have self-control. They were no longer crossdressing, and no longer was it causing strife in their life. Their desires for crossdressing had lessened and they were ready to leave our group and live their lives and stop thinking about crossdressing altogether! Most of the rest of our group is no longer crossdressing either, but we stay in the group to help support each other to continue, and we stay around to help others who come to our group who want to stop.
There is hope. If you are struggling with crossdressing, it is only a false rationalization and excuse to say that healing is not really possible. If you really want to quit, you can, and still lead a healthy and happy life. If you want to keep crossdressing, we can’t stop you. But don’t keep spreading the lie that it is impossible to change, that you can’t live a full life without crossdressing. Those lies need to be removed. Healing is possible! Crossdressing can be dealt with and stopped!
Thanks for improving the belief that healing from crossdressing is possible. it builds a sense of hope to remove this virus of autogynephilia entirely from our system
I have just emailed you Royce. Indeed, crossdressing forums say it’s not possible. But where is their proof? I don’t have proof either except for all the guys I know who have given up crossdressing completely, are happy and joyful and glad of it, and they feel free! That is proof enough for me.
Please help .
I’m now in my early fifties and still this immense desire to cross dress has not left me. I was teased terrible as a child even by parents. If I cried as a young child 6/7 ish and beyond I was told to stop being a sissy or stop crying or ill “ a parent “ out a skirt on you ! Kids little older also called me a girls name . I was an emotionally unstable and messed up child . I’m old enough to realise that perhaps these experiences led me to run to cross dressing in times of emotional distress or mental confusion . I’ve been a Christian since age of 19 . I do tell myself I love Jesus Christ as my Lord and saviour . I know he died and rose again for me . I do believe Bible is Gods word . I need healed as well as forgiven . I can’t bear this at times I’ve been suicidal. I’d rather die than continue to sin and shame my profession of knowing Jesus . Please advise please pray . I’ve often thought maybe I can help others struggling? But how can I tell others of a victory that has alluded me my entire Christian life ? I know Bible tells me I am complete in christ . Why do I still struggle with these feelings of femininity . Why can’t I be the masculine man God wants me to be ?
Mark, I’m so sorry for your frustration and pain in this area. First of all, if you are feeling suicidal right now, please immediately talk to your pastor or a counselor and get the help you need. There is also a suicide hotline at – 988.
I understand your frustration. You don’t want these crossdressing desires anymore. You didn’t choose to have them in the first place. But how to get rid of them? How to change? And you’ve wanted change for years but not experienced it yet.
Let me turn around and ask you a question before I give you more advice. What have you done to try to overcome this addiction and heal from it? I ask that because many guys have thought, quite foolishly, that just wanting or willing the desires to go away over many years is enough. But of course most addictions don’t work that way. Most require us to put in some actual effort, some concrete steps, and often getting outside help in order to really change.
So please share a bit more, and then I’m happy to continue sharing with you and helping you however I can. Keep in touch!
I will pray for you right now. May the peace of the Lord Jesus Christ dwell in your heart and comfort you right at this moment.