Welcome to Healing From Crossdressing. We exist to help people address struggles with crossdressing addiction and gender dysphoria. Although we operate from a Christian perspective, we welcome people regardless of their religion or faith perspective. This website’s content is written from a Christ-centric perspective. This page provides a synopsis of our foundational beliefs.
We believe in God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit as outlined in the teachings in the Apostle’s Creed and the Nicene Creed. God is the eternal creator and sovereign sustainer of all things.
We believe that our purpose in life is to worship God and enjoy Him.
We believe that life is most beautiful and enjoyable when we are in right relation with God.
We believe that the Bible (the 66 books of the Old and New Testaments) is the infallible Word of God, uniquely and fully inspired by the Holy Spirit yet penned by people, and is the supreme and final authority on all matters on which it speaks.
We believe in Jesus Christ, God’s only Son, our Lord, conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary, who lived among people on this earth. He was crucified, died, and was buried. Three days later, he rose from the dead, and was seen by many people before He ascended to Heaven, where He is seated at the right hand of God the Father.
We believe that all of us are at odds with God apart from being united with Him through the redemptive work of His Son, Jesus Christ. This is the gospel message. We believe everyone needs Jesus.
Jesus has said, “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (John 10:10), and, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?” (John 11:25-26).
The gospel is the good news that Jesus Christ died for our sins so that we can be reconciled to God. This act addresses the most serious problem that we have as humans— that we have not fully loved God and have sinned against Him. The Bible states that we are going to be judged by God and held to account, and none of us is good enough through our own good deeds to be saved from that coming judgment. The gospel, however, offers all of us hope.
We believe that those who trust in God’s gift of salvation in and through His Son, Jesus Christ, will be resurrected to life everlasting upon the second return of Jesus Christ.
The good news, the gospel, is that God has provided a mediator, a substitute. Because Jesus lived the perfect, righteous life that we are incapable of living, and because Jesus suffered death in our place, the innocent taking upon himself our punishment, those who respond to the call to trust and follow Jesus will not suffer eternal death. Jesus rose from the dead, thus conquering death. His resurrection is proof of the fulfillment of his victory over death, guaranteeing our future resurrection from the dead to everlasting life.
When we trust in Jesus alone as our savior and King, all of our sins are forgiven- past, present, and future, and we are adopted into God’s family to experience his love as his children. This is a beautiful act of love by God. We are no longer separated from Him.
You will likely notice the beliefs stated above are the source of our contentment and joy.
Although you may be here with the goal of resolving your struggle with crossdressing, the more important thing is your relationship with God. For knowing Jesus Christ is the first step to healing, joy, and peace. Trusting what God has revealed in the Bible is the first step.
This may not equate to a life of ease and comfort, but certainly one of contentment and hope.
Getting to know God is a process, as is any relationship. We read the Bible to better know God and ourselves so that we are better able to love and serve God and other people.
Jesus said, “Come, follow Me.” What does following Christ look like? It is not a mystical, mysterious thing, but the practice of living out, by faith, what God has revealed and promised. As Hebrews 11:1 states, “To have faith is to be sure of the things we hope for, to be certain of the things we cannot see.”
In practice, as Christians who follow Jesus, we strive to live our lives in obedience to God’s commands in gratitude to God for what He has done and continues to do for us. We read the Scriptures for wisdom, to grow in our understanding of ourselves, God, how we relate to one another, and more than anything, His tremendous, no-holds-barred love for us. His kindness and forgiveness draw us to Him, to love Him and obey Him. We recognize that obeying God can run contrary to our own wants, but we trust Him. He has proven that He loves us more than we could ever love Him.
We believe being involved in a local church is a needed opportunity to fellowship, love, consider, and love one another and to serve and worship corporately.
This is an overview of what we believe. If you would like to know more about God, His forgiveness, and His love for you, please contact us. If you want our take on why crossdressing is harmful to you and those you love, read this post. Our Resources page has plenty of articles that cover a host of topics about crossdressing. If you’d like to connect with us or join one of our support groups, please reach out to us!
Kindly,
The leadership team of Healing from Crossdressing
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ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:
How to put your trust in Jesus as your Savior
How to Pray: The Beginner’s Guide
Be Aware of God’s Presence
Hi there Sir.
I’m crossdressing.. I tried to cut it off this habit.. But I can’t the longest period was 3 months.. Every time I do I feel sorry for myself and I don’t to give up easily. Nowadays on community they support this thing and they say that we have to accept it. I don’t believe that I know this work of satanic.. Even in our religion (Islam) it prohibited.. But I can’t stop.. I don’t know how I found this website but I happy that there is hope…
My advice only to victims from this disease that stop ask people and search for advisor who believe on creator (God).
I’ll try your way and I hope God guide me to light.
Sorry for long letter and for my bad English.
Thanks alot
Good to hear from you Almuthana. Your English is not bad. It’s very readable! Thank you for your comment. Please continue to read my posts and interact with them. You may find the help you need to overcome this addiction. I believe you can experience freedom without crossdressing in your life
Let me also say that though I am a Christian and you are a Muslim, you are very welcome here. I look forward to the dialogue we might have together. If you don’t mind me asking, what is your view of Jesus?
Please keep reading my posts and feel free to give your comments. I’m glad you are here
Good day sir
Thank you for replying and your support..
About Jesus we love and believe on him as messenger of God before prophet Mohammed…
And as it’s mentioned in Quran that Jesus he’s not crossed. God saved him and he’ll be back…plus God say that Jesus not different from Adam which he don’t have parent.
In Islam we have to believe on all messengers..but Mohammed sent for us so that’s why we have to follow him as last messenger..
Even Jesus say that there is prophet after me follow him and his guidance.
I rly get annoyed when I see some people and media make jokes on Jesus. .
There’s alot to say about Jesus even this comment box not enough😊
Have good sir and once again thanks alot for your guidance.
Thank you for that answer Almuthana. I appreciate learning more about how you view Jesus. Thank you for explaining that to me. We shall talk more about that later.
In the meantime, I would love for you to get started on overcoming crossdressing by reading this post – https://healingfromcrossdressing.org/12-steps-to-stop-crossdressing/
Please comment as you read the posts, and give your reactions. I want to be able to help you. Also, I am praying for you
Good to have chat with you Mr.Barnabas…
I’ll never for forget your support and I’ll pray for you..
I hope we will meet one day here on real life or at heaven if God willing.
I will keep reading your post if I have any doubts I’ll send to you…
(no need to reply🙃)
I also want to appreciate you for being willing to read about my Christian beliefs in this post. Thank you for listening. If you have any questions about what I believe, please let me know.
Be sure to let me know what I can do to help you overcome crossdressing addiction as well.
In your opening paragraph you state “Many people come to this website who are not Christians and yet they find themselves stuck in a crossdressing addiction or in the despair of gender dysphoria………….This page is for all of these types of people”
In q1 above you make the following comment;
“Without a relationship with God, it really doesn’t matter whether you crossdress or not”.
As you are aware I am an atheist, I come to this website because it does matter to me personally and to my wife that I am trying to quit crossdressing. I have not once and will not now question your beliefs, but I now question your stated inclusiveness, for your comment leaves no room for people such as myself. I had thought that I had found a helping hand and could lend a helping hand, but I am now not so sure.
Keith
Hi Keith, thank you for the very honest and stimulating question. As always, I appreciate your comments, truly. Let me try to answer, though you might have to comment again to help me better understand your concern. But I will guess at what you are trying to say and ask.
People mean different things by “inclusive.” Am I inclusive in that I welcome everyone here at this website? YES! Am I inclusive in that I think God does not care whether or not a person knows him and worships him? No. I think it matters immensely. I feel like I have even shared this with you in the past. That I hope and pray that you will come to know Jesus yourself, but that I don’t want to pressure you to do so, and even if you don’t, I want you stay at this website and comment and be helped and help others and myself.
When I say it really doesn’t matter whether you crossdress or not without a relationship with God, I’m talking about meaning in relative degrees. I do care and want all crossdressers to stop crossdressing, I would find that meaningful. However, the degree of that meaning is very small compared to whether or not someone knows their Creator, compared to whether or not someone is going to spend everlasting life in Heaven or in Hell. Do you see what I mean? I do want someone coming to this website to be able to give up crossdressing. That’s a good thing, but compared to someone receiving eternal life, it’s a very very small good that matters a lot less in the big picture. If I did not believe this, I could not call myself a Christian.
I imagine that this is somewhat hard to understand for those who do not know Christ. But I like what atheist Penn Jilette says – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6md638smQd8
He seems to get it, so maybe it will help you too. It is out of love that I want others to know my Lord as well. That’s the same thing I want for you.
So to summarize again. This website is a safe place for atheists, for our Muslim friend, for anybody who wants to give up crossdressing, or even for those who don’t want to, but want to dialogue about crossdressing. They are fully welcome here. At the same time, I’m not ashamed to say that I think that life lived without God is ultimately meaningless. The two things can go together. Just like you on the one hand are welcoming and kind to me, and on the other hand, you probably think I’m living a foolish life to base so much of my behavior on the Bible, when you think God does not exist or he is not knowable. The two can also go together in your case. You are kind to me and respectful and appreciate discussing crossdressing, even if you think I’m wasting my life trying to worship God. Do you see? And I understand that, and it doesn’t bother me.
In the end, I’d encourage you to judge my inclusivity based on the actual interactions you’ve had with me so far. And I think our interactions have been positive. I’m even happy to post another guest post for you if you are interested.
Please follow up if I haven’t addressed your concerns!
I will take back the comment that I question your inclusiveness, for as you say you have indeed welcomed me. Perhaps my comment was not quite clear in itself. I believe that the comments that you have clarified above should be included in short form in your original statement so as not to lead to possible misinterpretation.
I do not believe that you or any other preacher/person is foolish in there beliefs and I include Atheists who are just the other side of the religious coin. Where beliefs do harm is where they are pressed/imposed upon unwilling subjects and all sides are guilty on this score. In the end we are all entitled to hold our own views.
I have watched the video in the link above. Like Penn I have encountered many humble and good people and clergy. I have also encountered some very arrogant and not terribly good people and clergy. You get a similar mix in all walks of life. Also like Penn I will not be persuaded by words alone, there has to be a solid foundation for my belief. You cannot persuade me by words in a book, that is at best less than 2000 years old when modern humans are believed to have emerged around 300,000 years ago. Historians cannot agree what exactly happened in the second world war with books full of false claims and individual interpretations of occurrences. Researchers have shown people a video of a fake robbery, then a few hours later questioned them about it. The participants often get details wrong or are persuaded to change their beliefs about what happened. Look what happens when a text is translated from the original language without consultation with the author. Try typing a sentence in another language, ask google to translate then translate googles translation back to your own language. The result is comic. I am not mocking the bible or any other religious text just pointing out that all written work is open to personal interpretation and none of us can possibly know what the original writers intentions or thoughts were, that produced the work.
Thank you Keith. I’m glad to see your response. I am with you, I think it is wrong for Christians, or people from other religions, to try to force or impose their beliefs on people. Sadly, that has all too often happened in history.
As to the truth of Christianity, I think there is such foundation there that you are looking for, but we can save that conversation for another day. I have books I’d suggest to you also on that point, we could read them together and discuss, if you are ever interested let me know.
Am happy you will remain around to keep dialoguing on different posts
Now had phone contact with the informed family member. They confirmed that they dont even see crossdressing as an issue and conversation on the subject lasted for about 1 to 2 minutes out of an hours phone call!.
A great weight of the mind that they had not had second thoughts about it and were totally accepting.
That is certainly a relief Keith. Question for ya. I know your perspective is quite different than mine, but we both agree that crossdressing wasn’t a good thing for us and very important that we stopped. So the question is – having this family member being affirming and accepting, does that bother you at all? And does it cause you some temptation or doubts?
Similar story to yours Barnabas is it not ?
Worth the read. https://www.firststone.org/articles/post/cross-dressing-and-christianity:-a-real-mans-struggle
Yes that is a great one. One of the first testimonies I read when I started looking up about crossdressing online.
Thanks for the link Babs AKA horrified. Any interesting read and some of this persons back story is reflected in my own. The paragraph that particularly keeps me true is “would I walk into my club en femme. Very definitely not.
To answer you Barnabas it has caused me to briefly wonder if it would be so bad just to try a pair of tights maybe or just knickers. As the family now knew about my CD, they would not have a shock at finding my stash when I die or finding out in another way, so that relieves part of the guilt and shame.
However, a) Just trying on even the smallest item would put me back on top of Occam’s razor a place that I do not want to be.
b) I still have one family member to have the discussion with and they already have issues with their emotional state, so I need to be very careful how I approach it. As with the other family member knowledge may help quash in correct assumptions or may cause more pain.
c) I still have to consider my wife and her feelings, though we do touch on my CD occasionally it is largely laid to rest. The other day she had a pain in her arm and said to me “you probably know the feeling when your bra strap slips down your arm? its right there” I agreed I knew where she meant and she just laughed.
The problem is that there is nothing negative in the bible concerning being transgender, and quite possibly there is positive. We know historically there have been transgender individuals through out history, some of them under the heading of eunuchs. I can go into detail.
Therefore a ministry concerning an issue God does not have a problem with.
Hello Sandra, good to hear from you. While the Bible doesn’t address the term “transgender” it does talk in many different places about sex, sexuality, and what it means to be a man or a woman. It also talks about eunuchs. Like you said, there have been people who have struggled with what it means to be a man or a woman throughout history, and therefore such concepts and struggles were not foreign to the people in the Bible. To say that the Bible doesn’t talk about transgender just because it doesn’t use that word, would be comparable to saying that the Bible doesn’t talk about abortion because it only talks about killing human beings, but doesn’t use the word “abortion.”
If you are curious to know why I think the Bible clearly talks about such issues, you can read some of my posts here – https://healingfromcrossdressing.org/all-blog-posts/
Look under the biblical and theological posts category.
Particularly the post on 1 Corinthians 11 and the post on Deuteronomy 22 and 1 Corinthians 6.
I would encourage you not to think of the Bible as a rulebook, where you simply look up whether it has a verse that directly comments on a particular struggle (though in this case it does that as well). The Bible teaches us what it means to be human beings, how to live for God, how to have abundant lives when we live how God intends us to, and the Bible talks a lot about how to view our bodies, and about men and women. You have to look at those broader biblical themes.