by Barnabas | Jan 10, 2023 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I’ve written extensively already about how a large aspect of our crossdressing is really about lust and sexual pleasure. But there is an aspect of crossdressing that I think is less about lust and more about romance or companionship with the other, the opposite...
by Barnabas | May 15, 2020 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
This is strange blog post to write, but at this site we deal with the real issues that confront us, and this is one of them! Some of us have an added burden or difficulty besides the desire to crossdress. Some of us have man boobs, that is, breasts that are bigger...
by Barnabas | Apr 11, 2020 | Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Homosexuality |
When I first started crossdressing as a kid, I immediately started searching God’s Word for guidance about it. Ever since that time 1 Corinthians 6:9 has always been of interest to me. It is not as well known in the crossdressing community as Deuteronomy 22:5, but in...
by Barnabas | May 3, 2019 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Transgender |
For those in our community who have given up crossdressing or who are trying to heal from gender dysphoria, one of the common questions asked is: “what does it look like for me to live as a man?” It’s straightforward to say that we should stop...
by Barnabas | Feb 24, 2019 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Identity, Law and Policy, Marriage, Psychologists, Suffering, Transgender |
Many of us today might feel like we are stuck in the worst period of history given our particular struggles. At no time in history have crossdressing and transgenderism been more accepted and celebrated than they are today. Even many people who don’t experience gender...
by Barnabas | Sep 16, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Homosexuality, Identity, Paraphilias, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Definition of Terms The first thing to note is that these terms are defined differently by different people. Furthermore, as our culture is changing, these terms are changing in their definitions. To make matters even more complicated, as culture changes some of these...
by Barnabas | Sep 16, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Law and Policy, Origins of the Desires, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I would like to recommend the book Love Thy Body by Nancy Pearcey. You could read some good book reviews here and here. Although there is only one chapter on transgender issues, the whole book is very important. Pearcey gives a very clear and strong critique of the...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips |
I’ve been thinking about how God made me and what kind of man he made me to be. I think part of the healing that needs to take place in many of us, is that we need to be able to appreciate who God made us to be. We need to accept not only our gender, but our...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Envy, Identity, My Personal Journey, Transgender |
Some of us feel ugly as men and we crave to be beautiful as women. Some of us despise our bodies and long to get rid of our male bodies and have female bodies. We want intimacy and love, good things, but we try to find them through crossdressing instead of in God. We...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, News Articles, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
In our culture the common belief is that people can be whoever they want to be. We craft our own identity and what matters is our heart, not physical reality. Of course, as Christians, we reject this idea. It is not we who make our own identities, but we are given our...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender, Transgender Fiction |
I recommend to you all the book, “The Man Who Would be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism,” by J. Michael Bailey. It is FREE to read online. I thought it was an excellent read and is definitely one of the more helpful books/articles...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Law and Policy, Psychologists, Testimonies, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I recently finished reading the book, When Harry Became Sally, by Ryan Anderson of the Heritage Foundation. This is a really well written book that examines the “transgender moment” our country has been in. Though I’m not thrilled about the title to this...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations, Transgender |
This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Transgender |
Throughout the history of this blog, at times I’ve focused on what men and women have in common and ruthlessly attacked unhelpful gender stereotypes of our culture, and even pointed out how such stereotypes contribute to the problems of crossdressing and...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, My Personal Journey |
One of the most helpful books I’ve read on the topic of what it means to be a man or woman is the book – “Biblical Foundations for Manhood and Womanhood.” I want to recommend it to all of you. If you click on the link you can read it for free. It’s by Wayne Grudem as...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Transgender |
I read this article – The Psychopathology of “Sex Reassignment” Surgery: Assessing Its Medical, Psychological, and Ethical Appropriateness. You have to download it as a pdf. It is written by Richard P. Fitzgibbons, M.D., Philip M. Sutton, and Dale O’Leary. This...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to share a great idea. If you want to limit your crossdressing, both your actual practice, and your temptations, then grow a beard or a mustache. Here are a few of my thoughts. On the one hand, having a beard or mustache seems like a stereotypically manly thing...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to suggest a very practical tip in your healing from crossdressing addiction. Simply put, I suggest you take time to exercise, get in shape, and lift weights. It has been really helpful for me to lift weights and do pushups and other exercises that tone and...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Intersexual Conditions, Transgender |
The occurrence of people born with bodies that have some biological male traits and some biological female traits have led many people in our mainstream culture to reject not only a gender binary but also a sexual binary. It is common to hear people argue that we are...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Embracing Manhood, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Transgender |
I thought it would be helpful to compile a list of good beginning steps for those who want to give up crossdressing for good. This is just a starting point for those who wish to stop crossdressing completely. Stopping crossdressing altogether is a long process, and...
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