by Barnabas | Dec 26, 2025 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Envy, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Idolatry, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
There is a lot of debate in online forums about whether indulging autogynephilic desires is addictive by nature or not. Some argue that there is nothing wrong or unhealthy about autogynephilia as a sexual orientation when men engage in autogynephilic behaviors in a...
by Barnabas | Oct 10, 2025 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Gender Dysphoria, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
It is really common for men with autogynephilia to end up enjoying crossdressing without any sexual component. For many of them, this is an argument they use for themselves and to other people to justify why their crossdressing is harmless and not a bad thing. Or they...
by Barnabas | May 22, 2025 | Allosexuality, Asexuality, Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Singleness |
One helpful way to handle living with autogynephilia (AGP) is learning to prioritize your heterosexuality and starve your autogynephilia. This can help to greatly lessen the strength of our autogynephilic desires over time. This is the experience I have had along with...
by Barnabas | Apr 7, 2025 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
In this post are questions asked by wives in the Private Wives Group which is a support and prayer group for wives of crossdressers. The questions are answered by a few former crossdressers from the Christian Recovery Group. The wives have very diverse experiences...
by Barnabas | Nov 14, 2024 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Gender Dysphoria, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Pleasure |
In this post, I am not out to attack men with autogynephilia (AGP). Rather, as someone who has experienced autogynephilia myself, I write out of great compassion for guys who find themselves with desires they don’t know what to do with. A start for learning how...
by Nick Smith | Oct 3, 2024 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Church, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies, Transgender |
My Story – Written by Nick Smith – Healing from Crossdressing Executive Director Hello! My name is Nick Smith, and I would like to thank Barnabas for allowing me to write a guest post to share my story. If this feels like it’s intended for a broader...
by Barnabas | Aug 17, 2024 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Marriage, Temptations |
In my interactions with recovering crossdressers and their wives over the years, a certain issue has come up frequently. At times a wife may think she should stop dressing in a feminine way for fear of triggering her husband’s crossdressing desires or arousing his...
by Barnabas | May 15, 2024 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Identity, Idolatry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Singleness, Suffering, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
If you are here reading this post, maybe you are feeling utterly depressed because of your autogynephilia or gender dysphoria. Maybe you are full of guilt, or maybe you feel anxiety and great pain from unfulfilled longing. Or maybe you are feeling hopeless and full of...
by Barnabas | Mar 19, 2024 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Pornography, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations |
The longer I have tried to care for and help other men, the more I realize the importance of making a distinction between a harmful sexual addiction and an unwanted sexual orientation (for an explanation about why I am using the term “sexual orientation”,...
by Barnabas | Jan 9, 2024 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I would like to recommend the book Autoheterosexual: Attracted to Being the Other Sex written by Phil Illy, himself an autoheterosexual, more specifically someone who experiences autogynephilia, just like I do. (I recommend this book with some strong reservations,...
by Barnabas | Jun 14, 2023 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Most of my posts on this website are written from my Christian perspective on crossdressing, but sometimes it is helpful to delve into what secular researchers and psychiatrists have discovered about crossdressing. I’d like to share here an article written by...
by Barnabas | Nov 30, 2022 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Pornography, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure |
Earlier this year I tried to do some informal research through a survey with ex-crossdressers in this community, both Christian and non-Christian. My sample size is very small, so I realize the results are not able to hold up to scientific scrutiny. Nevertheless, the...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2022 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
Though we mostly write about autogynephilia and crossdressing as a sexual addiction, we realize that there is great diversity among crossdressers. There are so many different causes, motives, and end goals for crossdressing. But it can be hard to divide crossdressers...
by Barnabas | Jan 21, 2022 | Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender Fiction |
It occurred to me recently that a part of our recovery and healing process as former crossdressers should be to examine our hearts to specifically repent of our sexism, and ask God to transform our hearts and minds. Why do I say this? My experience with crossdressing...
by Barnabas | Oct 13, 2021 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
As people visit this website and ask for my advice, one of the most common struggles reported is difficulty during sex in marriage even after crossdressing has been left behind. This can be for many reasons. One of the most common is that wives feel betrayed and hurt...
by Barnabas | Jun 23, 2021 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Medications, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Practical Tips, Psychologists |
I appreciated the book, “The Paraphilias: Changing Suits in the Evolution of Sexual Interest Paradigms” by J. Paul Fedoroff. I found it not only tremendously fascinating but quite helpful. You don’t all need to go out and purchase the book because the book is...
by Barnabas | Sep 21, 2019 | Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
I have written extensively about how crossdressing is or can become a replacement for one’s girlfriend or wife. See these posts – Autogynephilia Versus Heterosexuality and Becoming the Woman my Wife is Not and Crossdressing without sexual pleasure. Often the...
by Barnabas | May 3, 2019 | Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Transgender |
Autogynephilia is all about love of oneself as a woman. But what if you have chosen not to indulge your autogynephilia? You don’t want to transition. You don’t want to crossdress. You want to learn to be content as a man. You want to learn to love and...
by Barnabas | Mar 12, 2019 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I would like to recommend the book, Transvestites and Transsexuals: Toward a Theory of Cross-Gender Behavior, written by Richard F. Docter, published in 1988. Before I talk about the book, let me give a warning. Don’t read this book without getting into a...
by Barnabas | Sep 16, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Paraphilias, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Definition of Terms The first thing to note is that these terms are defined differently by different people. Furthermore, as our culture is changing, these terms are changing in their definitions. To make matters even more complicated, as culture changes some of these...
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