by Barnabas | Mar 6, 2025 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing |
An acquaintance named John once commented on this site – “One of the sad things about crossdressing websites is that it is so often men connecting with men while hiding behind a female moniker or name. I think there is something to that which goes deeper...
by Nick Smith | Oct 3, 2024 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Church, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies, Transgender |
My Story – Written by Nick Smith – Healing from Crossdressing Executive Director Hello! My name is Nick Smith, and I would like to thank Barnabas for allowing me to write a guest post to share my story. If this feels like it’s intended for a broader...
by Barnabas | Jan 10, 2023 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I’ve written extensively already about how a large aspect of our crossdressing is really about lust and sexual pleasure. But there is an aspect of crossdressing that I think is less about lust and more about romance or companionship with the other, the opposite...
by Barnabas | Jan 21, 2022 | Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender Fiction |
It occurred to me recently that a part of our recovery and healing process as former crossdressers should be to examine our hearts to specifically repent of our sexism, and ask God to transform our hearts and minds. Why do I say this? My experience with crossdressing...
by Barnabas | Jul 23, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
In this post are questions asked by wives in the Private Wives Group which is a support and prayer group for wives of crossdressers. The questions are answered by a few former crossdressers from the Christian Recovery Group. The wives have very diverse experiences...
by Barnabas | Mar 5, 2021 | Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Identity |
Written by Ewan I wonder whether we recognise how powerful a name is. Names are our identity. They are who people know us as. They often hint at something about the person. In the Bible, Abram (father) became Abraham (father of many); Peter was the rock on...
by Barnabas | May 15, 2020 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
This is strange blog post to write, but at this site we deal with the real issues that confront us, and this is one of them! Some of us have an added burden or difficulty besides the desire to crossdress. Some of us have man boobs, that is, breasts that are bigger...
by Barnabas | Sep 21, 2019 | Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
I have written extensively about how crossdressing is or can become a replacement for one’s girlfriend or wife. See these posts – Autogynephilia Versus Heterosexuality and Becoming the Woman my Wife is Not and Crossdressing without sexual pleasure. Often the...
by Barnabas | May 3, 2019 | Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Transgender |
Autogynephilia is all about love of oneself as a woman. But what if you have chosen not to indulge your autogynephilia? You don’t want to transition. You don’t want to crossdress. You want to learn to be content as a man. You want to learn to love and...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Dysphoria, Identity, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips |
I’ve been thinking about how God made me and what kind of man he made me to be. I think part of the healing that needs to take place in many of us, is that we need to be able to appreciate who God made us to be. We need to accept not only our gender, but our...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I wanted to quickly mention several other practical things you can do to minimize crossdressing temptations in your life. They are all things that have helped me personally. 1. You and your wife could use separate closets – If you have a spare bedroom in your...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Identity, Prayer, Transgender |
Some of us feel ugly as men and we crave to be beautiful as women. Some of us despise our bodies and long to get rid of our male bodies and have female bodies. We want intimacy and love, good things, but we try to find them through crossdressing instead of in God. We...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Marriage, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Singleness |
One thing that has helped me a lot is purposefully cultivating my desire and attraction to my wife. I specifically try to do so by pondering Bible passages like Proverbs 5:18-19 and keeping them running through my mind throughout the day: 18 May your fountain be...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Law and Policy, Psychologists, Testimonies, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I recently finished reading the book, When Harry Became Sally, by Ryan Anderson of the Heritage Foundation. This is a really well written book that examines the “transgender moment” our country has been in. Though I’m not thrilled about the title to this...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations, Transgender |
This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
In a few days it will be Halloween. I post a reminder at this time every year. I know firsthand that it is a time of vigorous temptation. Even just seeing other people or children getting into costumes can conjure up memories of crossdressing, or fresh desires to...
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Identity, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
I want to counteract what I see as false advertising on the internet, even if that false advertising is unintentional. Crossdressers on internet forums and blogs make out that giving up crossdressing is a sure-fire way to be miserable and stressed out, a sure-fire way...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Bible, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity |
During devotions recently I came across these wonderful little verses that I never noticed before – 1 Corinthians 16:13-14 – In the ESV: 13 Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. 14 Let all that you do be done in love. NIV: 13 Be on...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to share a great idea. If you want to limit your crossdressing, both your actual practice, and your temptations, then grow a beard or a mustache. Here are a few of my thoughts. On the one hand, having a beard or mustache seems like a stereotypically manly thing...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I’ve been reading some articles from the Expose ministries website. Expose ministries tries to reach out to wives who are struggling with their husband’s crossdressing or transgenderism. Here are about 10 articles related to crossdressing, transgenderism,...
Hi Rob, thank you for reaching out. Here is a good place to start - https://healingfromcrossdressing.org/12-steps-to-stop-crossdressing/ Let us know how…
I.am.strugging.with.crossdressing.
Totally agree. Let me rephrase that one sentence
Not sure I agree that satan’s battle is over our soul as that’s not negotiable as Christ Jesus has ownership…
Good to hear from you Barry, I have been wondering how you have been. If you want to rejoin the…
Hi I’m not a cross dresser but I was addicted to porn for 50 years with the last good few…
Thanks Mike!
Kinda amusing to see that I'm not the only CDer who rolls their eyes at being labeled as "homosexual".