by Barnabas | Oct 7, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Change is hard. What causes a crossdresser to make a decision to stop crossdressing? And for crossdressers who successfully stop and find happiness without crossdressing in their life, what is it that helped them to change? What is it that allows people to overcome...
by Barnabas | Jun 19, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I know the title of this article might seem a little like an oxymoron, but let me assure you from experience that it is not. If you have struggled with crossdressing addiction, like I have, getting yourself an internet filter for your computer will allow you to...
by Barnabas | Feb 3, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Marriage, Purges of Clothing, Testimonies |
By David Galatians This is my story of walking on the path to healing and redemption with the Lord. Let me clearly state that I am a Christian. I believe that crossdressing is a sin and is not the plan that God has for us – His children. I have had a person...
by Barnabas | Dec 28, 2019 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Sometimes what causes us to fail is simply having a wrong attitude and mindset about the whole process of overcoming crossdressing addiction or sexual addictions of any kind. I have found myself dropping into a false mindset often. At times, I focus too much on the...
by Barnabas | Jan 8, 2019 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
If you’ve spent much time reading about crossdressing online then you will probably know about the term “purging” and all of the wisdom and lore that has built up around this idea. Purging is basically the act of getting rid of all of your female...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Temptations, Transgender |
In this post I will make some general observations about how the church should respond and deal with hard issues like homosexuality, crossdressing, and transsexualism. But more importantly, this post is about how the church should respond to the people struggling with...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations |
Because of the nature of addiction, you cannot fight your addiction alone. You will need help. I’ve said this so many times on this blog, but you need to find an accountability partner! In this post I want to talk about the merits of having an accountability...
by Barnabas | Aug 15, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I’ve been reminded recently that crossdressing, especially crossdressing for sexual pleasure, is one of the hardest things for other people to understand. And that makes us feel oh so alone. Even if we don’t crossdress anymore, we still experience some of...
by Barnabas | Aug 14, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Psychologists, Temptations, Testimonies |
I have told quite a number of people in my life about my crossdressing addiction, both professionals, and also close family and friends. So I’d like to share some wisdom about how to best do this and some general tips. In every case of telling someone, things...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, Practical Tips |
First, here is a good article for thinking about the role of your wife as you recover from a crossdressing addiction. What Every Wife of a Sex Addict Has a Right to Know About Her Husband’s Recovery. It can be difficult to know how much to tell her and how to...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
We need to do whatever it takes to quit crossdressing and fight temptation. Here is a practical tip that may help you. I did a writing exercise once that was helpful to me. A television show reminded me of how kids used to do the discipline activity of writing...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Marriage, Practical Tips, Prayer, Purges of Clothing, Temptations |
A lot of people say they want to quit crossdressing, or that they tried to quit crossdressing and they failed. But many of these people have not really tried. They half-heartedly tried, but they didn’t try very hard. If this addiction is really destroying your...
by Barnabas | Jul 15, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Temptations, Testimonies |
Can God heal you or cure you from crossdressing? Yes I believe he can. Let me explain. I believe God can heal us from this perversion in at least two or more ways. The first way is the way that I have experienced. This way is the gradual healing of our hearts and...
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Purges of Clothing |
This is an article worth sharing and reflecting on – “Myths about Addiction: They could stop if they wanted to.” We must admit it. For many of us crossdressing was or is an addiction. Instead of reaching a “high” from a drug addiction, we...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Halloween is coming up, a very strange holiday, and a particularly dangerous holiday for us. I want to remind you that even if your wife, or girlfriend, or mother, or friends think dressing you up as a woman is a playful harmless thing, it is not harmless for us. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Dreams, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Temptations |
In this post I want to analyze the similarities between my struggle with crossdressing and the power of the one ring in The Lord of the Rings books. I am not writing this as a logical argument against crossdressing. I’m just writing out of my own experience of...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips, Temptations |
It can be a huge issue for many of us to give into crossdressing while we are away from home and family on business trips. This has not been an issue for me as I don’t travel alone but am usually with other pastors. For me, it was a bigger problem to be home...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Dreams, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Dreams have been one of the biggest problems I have had over the years in giving up crossdressing and trying to keep from fantasizing about it. I know I am not alone. If you are like me, you can go months without thinking about crossdressing during the day, but then...
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