by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Identity, My Personal Journey, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
I want to counteract what I see as false advertising on the internet, even if that false advertising is unintentional. Crossdressers on internet forums and blogs make out that giving up crossdressing is a sure-fire way to be miserable and stressed out, a sure-fire way...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Halloween is coming up, a very strange holiday, and a particularly dangerous holiday for us. I want to remind you that even if your wife, or girlfriend, or mother, or friends think dressing you up as a woman is a playful harmless thing, it is not harmless for us. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
One of the important things to do, (that can easily be overlooked), when giving up a crossdressing alter ego, or crossdressing addiction, is to get some new hobbies. Let’s face it, crossdressing was a huge part our lives. For some of us, our crossdressed self...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Dreams, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Temptations |
In this post I want to analyze the similarities between a struggle with crossdressing and the power of the one ring in The Lord of the Rings books. I am not writing this as a logical argument against crossdressing. I’m just writing out of my own experience of...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Origins of the Desires |
I heard about a story a pastor told to his church congregation this year. He said to the congregation: “When I was a boy I told my mother that I wanted to be beautiful. I told her, ‘tell me I’m beautiful.’ She said to me, ‘We only say...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Prayer, Suffering |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness |
As Christians, we should not be living under condemnation. In fact, we ARE NOT living under condemnation because of what Jesus did for us. But we also need to make sure we don’t give in to feelings of condemnation after we fail with any sin. After we sin, when...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Prayer, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Sexual Pleasure |
Some time ago I watched an episode of the television show “House.” It’s a doctor show about diagnosing patients, but they really get into the personal issues of the patients in the show. I found this episode very interesting in the parallels I saw to...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
We are often asked why we believe it is harmful to indulge our desires related to autogynephilia or crossdressing. This post gives a summary of many of the reasons we have written about in greater depth elsewhere on this website. It can be a bit overwhelming looking...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips, Temptations |
It can be a huge issue for many of us to give into crossdressing while we are away from home and family on business trips. This has not been an issue for me as I don’t travel alone but am usually with other pastors. For me, it was a bigger problem to be home...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey |
This is one of my favorite songs – “This is how it feels to be free.” I remember a choir singing it once during a church service about victory over sexual sin. The choir singing it was much more powerful than this rendition. But perhaps that is just...
by Barnabas | Jul 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Temptations, Transgender Fiction |
I have to admit that when I think about crossdressing, I can come up with certain good qualities about it. This may surprise you to hear me say this. But it’s true. And these good qualities were often the things that tripped me up and got me to rationalize...
by Barnabas | Jul 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Singleness, Transgender |
This was an interesting blog post I came across – The Hypocrisy of the Gay Community in America….Antoine Dobson/Jason Collins. I don’t claim to agree with everything in the post. However, I resonated with the main point. As the author points out,...
by Barnabas | Jul 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Testimonies, Transgender |
For those of you wives looking for some help in dealing with your husband’s crossdressing or gender confusion, you could check out this book by Gae Hall – “He can never be she.” It is also on Kindle as an e-book. It also could be helpful to...
by Barnabas | Jun 20, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Suffering |
As I think about all the hurt and suffering in marriages I hear about from the community at this website, from both men and women, I would like to recommend the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas. It will be helpful to read for anyone who is both married and a...
by Barnabas | Jun 14, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I am frustrated with crossdressers for expecting or even hoping for their wives to act as lesbians. If you are a Christian who believes that homosexual behavior is sinful, then trying to get your wife to act this way with you (while you are crossdressed) is...
by Barnabas | Jun 13, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure |
This is a very helpful and enlightening video. It is called The Great Porn Experiment. The video is about the effect that pornography is having on men and on the wider culture. As many of you probably struggle with pornography in addition to crossdressing, I think...
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