by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Envy, Identity, My Personal Journey, Transgender |
Some of us feel ugly as men and we crave to be beautiful as women. Some of us despise our bodies and long to get rid of our male bodies and have female bodies. We want intimacy and love, good things, but we try to find them through crossdressing instead of in God. We...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations |
Merry Christmas! This week I thought I’d write about Christmas and how it relates to our struggle. What we celebrate at Christmas is the beauty and mystery of the incarnation (God made flesh) – the Son, the second person of the Trinity, taking on human...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations |
Many of us here are addicts – whether to crossdressing, trans porn, sissy hypnosis, or reading transgender fiction. Because of the nature of addiction, you cannot fight your addiction alone. You will need help. I’ve said this so many times on this website,...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Most people who come to this website wrongly jump to conclusions about me. Some people think that one day I decided to give up crossdressing and everything has been easy sailing since. And so they despair when they themselves are not able to give it up so easily. When...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Marriage, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Singleness |
One thing that has helped me a lot is purposefully cultivating my desire and attraction to my wife. I specifically try to do so by pondering Bible passages like Proverbs 5:18-19 and keeping them running through my mind throughout the day: 18 May your fountain be...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Identity, Law and Policy, Psychologists, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
Analogies are never fail proof. They always break down at some point because by definition, they compare two things that are alike in some ways but also not alike in some ways. But they are still helpful, and in this case particularly powerful in my opinion. A lot of...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
We can stand our ground, brace ourselves, learn self-control, and resist in the face of strong urges to crossdress. But that gets tiring. So many crossdressers that come to this site try quitting and they find that they can do so. But then they get weary and say,...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Biological Transgender Issues, News Articles, Transgender |
I believe that a large part of the reason that transsexuals are becoming more accepted today is because they are more visually convincing living as the opposite sex then they used to be in the past. Obviously crossdressers and those with gender dysphoria have existed...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Purges of Clothing |
In the past I used to read through forums at crossdressing websites to dialogue and also to get a sense of what crossdressers are feeling and experiencing. One thing that impressed upon me many times was seeing that most crossdressers continue to experience guilt and...
by Barnabas | Aug 15, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I’ve been reminded recently that crossdressing, especially crossdressing for sexual pleasure (autogynephilic crossdressing or tranvestic fetishism), is one of the hardest things for other people to understand. And that makes us feel so alone. Even if we...
by Barnabas | Aug 14, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Psychologists, Temptations, Testimonies |
I have told quite a number of people in my life (30-40) about my crossdressing and autogynephilia, both professionals, and family and friends. So I’d like to share some wisdom about how to best do this and some general tips. For me, in every case of telling...
by Barnabas | Aug 14, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I read a book called – Divine Sex: A Compelling Vision for Christian Relationship in a Hypersexualized Age by Jonathan Grant – and I wanted to share with you some quotes and reflections related to crossdressing and hormones / neurotransmitters. In general,...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Sexual Pleasure |
Crossdressers tend to rationalize addiction through such simple thoughts like – “But they are just clothes.” “I’m just being myself, allowing the feminine part of my personality out.” “This is not sexual, it’s about my...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Transgender |
In this article, Pastor Tim Keller reviews several of the popular arguments Christians have recently been using to affirm romantic same-sex relationships. Many have come up with new interpretations or ways of looking at Scripture and Keller addresses those new ideas....
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, News Articles, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
In our culture the common belief is that people can be whoever they want to be. We craft our own identity and what matters is our heart, not physical reality. Of course, as Christians, we reject this idea. It is not we who make our own identities, but we are given our...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Transgender |
From Matthew 1: 20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. 21 She will give birth to a...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender, Transgender Fiction |
I recommend to you all the book, “The Man Who Would be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism,” by J. Michael Bailey. It is FREE to read online. I thought it was an excellent read and is definitely one of the more helpful books/articles...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’d like to share one tiny piece of advice about something you can do to help you in your healing from crossdressing. This is something that can help us realize how wrong and strange crossdressing is, and also will help you at the specific times that temptation...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Church, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Testimonies |
When I originally started this blog, it was very helpful to me, and I enjoyed it so much that it was getting in the way of my role of pastoring a church in real life. I was spending too much time on it. It energized me to work on this blog. I was finally getting my...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Law and Policy, Psychologists, Testimonies, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I recently finished reading the book, When Harry Became Sally, by Ryan Anderson of the Heritage Foundation. This is a really well written book that examines the “transgender moment” our country has been in. Though I’m not thrilled about the title to this...
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