by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender, Transgender Fiction |
I recommend to you all the book, “The Man Who Would be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism,” by J. Michael Bailey. It is FREE to read online. I thought it was an excellent read and is definitely one of the more helpful books/articles...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations, Transgender |
This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’m going to quoting a lengthy section from a book by Tim Keller, called Preaching: Communicating Faith in an Age of Skepticism. He brilliantly picks apart the modern ideas of our culture, including the myth of “choosing to be yourself.” He begins by...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations |
Recently I listened to this free sermon online by Pastor Tim Keller. It was a powerful message for any Christian, but for me when thinking about crossdressing it was especially insightful. I highly recommend it – Spiritual Warfare by Tim Keller. If the links do...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Many people online have made the claim that I advocate suppressing your crossdressing desires. I do not actually make that claim. It is not healthy. We must acknowledge that those desires are there, and consciously choose not to act on them. If we just try to ignore...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dreams, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists |
By OCD, I am of course referring to Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. I’ve been looking at a number of websites and articles online that talk about a connection between OCD and crossdressing. It’s very interesting to me because 1. I have OCD (self diagnosed)...
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Transgender |
I highly suggest the article – The Transvestic Career Path – by H. Taylor Buckner. It’s an old article and some people might take offense with some of the terms or way it is written. But I find it an extremely insightful article that fits very well...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
One of the important things to do, (that can easily be overlooked), when giving up a crossdressing alter ego, or crossdressing addiction, is to get some new hobbies. Let’s face it, crossdressing was a huge part our lives. For some of us, our crossdressed self...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Origins of the Desires |
I heard about a story a pastor told to his church congregation this year. He said to the congregation: “When I was a boy I told my mother that I wanted to be beautiful. I told her, ‘tell me I’m beautiful.’ She said to me, ‘We only say...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Prayer, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
We are often asked why we believe it is harmful to indulge our desires related to autogynephilia or crossdressing. This post gives a summary of many of the reasons we have written about in greater depth elsewhere on this website. It can be a bit overwhelming looking...
by Barnabas | Jul 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Temptations, Transgender Fiction |
I have to admit that when I think about crossdressing, I can come up with certain good qualities about it. This may surprise you to hear me say this. But it’s true. And these good qualities were often the things that tripped me up and got me to rationalize...
by Barnabas | Jun 13, 2018 | Crossdressing, Envy, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I believe that some of our desire to crossdress is due to natural curiosity. Perhaps we initially crossdressed the first time because of curiousity, but that event became a sexual experience at the same time, thus fusing the bond between ourselves and crossdressing...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Temptations, Transgender |
The Bible doesn’t say a lot about crossdressing and autogynephilia, but it says more about homosexuality. How can understanding homosexuality and the Bible’s view of it help us to understand better how to think about crossdressing? A friend sent me an...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Dreams, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Dreams have been one of the biggest problems I have had over the years in giving up crossdressing and trying to keep from fantasizing about it. I know I am not alone. If you are like me, you can go months without thinking about crossdressing during the day, but then...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Suffering, Transgender |
I found an interesting resource, an Armenian medical network encyclopedia section on transvestism. The section is called – Transvestism and Gender Identity Disorder in Adults. Prepare yourself for a lot of reading! Notice that the link I gave is only page 1 of...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Embracing Manhood, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Transgender |
I thought it would be helpful to compile a list of good beginning steps for those who want to give up crossdressing (or other autogynephilic related behaviors) for good. This is just a starting point for those who wish to stop crossdressing completely. Stopping...
by Barnabas | May 10, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Dreams, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
In this post, I am going to talk about how crossdressing can easily become idolatry. Of course I do not refer to consciously worshipping crossdressing. I mean idolatry in the sense of putting something else as a god in your life, in the same way that money or power...
by Barnabas | May 9, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Envy, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
About the Author By Don Don’s Testimony (anti-androgen medication) For most of my life I dreamed of being a girl. It started when I was 5 years old when my mother threatened me several times to put a dress on me when I was bothering my sister. The thought...
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