by Barnabas | Jul 15, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Law and Policy, Marriage, Suffering, Transgender |
This research study (pdf) is important to read – Suicide Attempts among Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Adults. The study was not perfect nor were its research methodologies (as noted even in the report itself). But really, what study is perfect? This...
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Transgender |
I highly suggest the article – The Transvestic Career Path – by H. Taylor Buckner. It’s an old article and some people might take offense with some of the terms or way it is written. But I find it an extremely insightful article that fits very well...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Identity, Transgender |
I recommend reading the very good article, Sex without bodies, in Christianity Today. A common theme in the LGBT movement is to value someone’s personality or soul and to devalue the physical body. They believe in changing the body to match what is inside,...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Dreams, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Temptations |
In this post I want to analyze the similarities between a struggle with crossdressing and the power of the one ring in The Lord of the Rings books. I am not writing this as a logical argument against crossdressing. I’m just writing out of my own experience of...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
We are often asked why we believe it is harmful to indulge our desires related to autogynephilia or crossdressing. This post gives a summary of many of the reasons we have written about in greater depth elsewhere on this website. It can be a bit overwhelming looking...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey |
This is one of my favorite songs – “This is how it feels to be free.” I remember a choir singing it once during a church service about victory over sexual sin. The choir singing it was much more powerful than this rendition. But perhaps that is just...
by Barnabas | Jul 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Singleness, Transgender |
This was an interesting blog post I came across – The Hypocrisy of the Gay Community in America….Antoine Dobson/Jason Collins. I don’t claim to agree with everything in the post. However, I resonated with the main point. As the author points out,...
by Barnabas | Jul 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Testimonies, Transgender |
For those of you wives looking for some help in dealing with your husband’s crossdressing or gender confusion, you could check out this book by Gae Hall – “He can never be she.” It is also on Kindle as an e-book. It also could be helpful to...
by Barnabas | Jun 20, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Suffering |
As I think about all the hurt and suffering in marriages I hear about from the community at this website, from both men and women, I would like to recommend the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas. It will be helpful to read for anyone who is both married and a...
by Barnabas | Jun 13, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure |
This is a very helpful and enlightening video. It is called The Great Porn Experiment. The video is about the effect that pornography is having on men and on the wider culture. As many of you probably struggle with pornography in addition to crossdressing, I think...
by Barnabas | Jun 13, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Masturbation, Temptations |
I found this video really helpful in thinking about avoiding crossdressing temptations, in life or on the computer. The video is by pastor Mark Driscoll. Let me first say that some of what Pastor Driscoll says in his sermons makes me uncomfortable. I think he is off...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Transgender |
I read this article – The Psychopathology of “Sex Reassignment” Surgery: Assessing Its Medical, Psychological, and Ethical Appropriateness. You have to download it as a pdf. It is written by Richard P. Fitzgibbons, M.D., Philip M. Sutton, and Dale O’Leary. This...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Temptations, Transgender |
The Bible doesn’t say a lot about crossdressing and autogynephilia, but it says more about homosexuality. How can understanding homosexuality and the Bible’s view of it help us to understand better how to think about crossdressing? A friend sent me an...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Homosexuality |
One of the things that I have come across often in conversations about crossdressing or homosexuality (and many other controversial issues), is the charge that Christians just pick and choose what they want to follow from the Bible. Non-Christians (and even some...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Suffering, Transgender |
I found an interesting resource, an Armenian medical network encyclopedia section on transvestism. The section is called – Transvestism and Gender Identity Disorder in Adults. Prepare yourself for a lot of reading! Notice that the link I gave is only page 1 of...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Singleness, Temptations |
Whew, this is a heavy and personal topic, but I think it needs to be addressed. Is masturbation okay for a Christian? Or is it sinful? This is a long debate and I don’t have all the answers, but I’ve thought a lot about. In fact, my views about it have...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I’ve been reading some articles from the Expose ministries website. Expose ministries tries to reach out to wives who are struggling with their husband’s crossdressing or transgenderism. Here are about 10 articles related to crossdressing, transgenderism,...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Intersexual Conditions, Transgender |
The occurrence of people born with bodies that have some biological male traits and some biological female traits have led many people in our mainstream culture to reject not only a gender binary but also a sexual binary. It is common to hear people argue that we are...
by Barnabas | Jun 8, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Identity, Prayer |
This song has been a welcome light in my journey of accepting myself as the man that God has made me to be. It might be helpful to the rest of you as you struggle to live in your identity as a man, and fight your urges to crossdress. The song is not directly about...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Embracing Manhood, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Transgender |
I thought it would be helpful to compile a list of good beginning steps for those who want to give up crossdressing (or other autogynephilic related behaviors) for good. This is just a starting point for those who wish to stop crossdressing completely. Stopping...
Thanks Mike!
Kinda amusing to see that I'm not the only CDer who rolls their eyes at being labeled as "homosexual".
A great example of how God can change our hearts and guide us back onto the path He wants us…
The last paragraph has a great illustration of Hebrews 13:4. God desires the best for us. Why would 1 of…
Mike thank you for the post here! I will send you an email
I have struggled w the sin of cross-dressing. The more I leave it in the past by God's grace, the…
I encourage you and your wife to keep reading posts to understand these things better. For example, if your wife…
Thanks David for sharing your story. I do believe we can help you with the crossdressing. About your marriage, that…