by Barnabas | Sep 16, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Paraphilias, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Definition of Terms The first thing to note is that these terms are defined differently by different people. Furthermore, as our culture is changing, these terms are changing in their definitions. To make matters even more complicated, as culture changes some of these...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
When a sexual temptation like crossdressing comes up, many of us feel like we go into a frenzy. We lose our heads and feel like we need to give in. We can’t think as logically as we normally would. For me, my body would sometimes even shake thinking about the...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Church, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender Fiction |
In 2 Samuel chapters 11-12, we read the story of David committing adultery with Bathsheba. And then, to cover up his sin, he found a way to have Uriah, Bathsheba’s husband, killed. Finally, God sent the prophet Nathan to challenge and rebuke David. In the end,...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Church, Crossdressing, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I want to strongly recommend Mark Yarhouse’s book called “Understanding Gender Dysphoria.” You can read about Dr. Yarhouse – here. He is an expert on matters of sexual identity, and is well respected by both Christians and non-Christians. To be honest, I did not agree...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Most people who come to this website wrongly jump to conclusions about me. Some people think that one day I decided to give up crossdressing and everything has been easy sailing since. And so they despair when they themselves are not able to give it up so easily. When...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Marriage, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Singleness |
One thing that has helped me a lot is purposefully cultivating my desire and attraction to my wife. I specifically try to do so by pondering Bible passages like Proverbs 5:18-19 and keeping them running through my mind throughout the day: 18 May your fountain be...
by Barnabas | Aug 15, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I’ve been reminded recently that crossdressing, especially crossdressing for sexual pleasure (autogynephilic crossdressing or tranvestic fetishism), is one of the hardest things for other people to understand. And that makes us feel so alone. Even if we...
by Barnabas | Aug 14, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I read a book called – Divine Sex: A Compelling Vision for Christian Relationship in a Hypersexualized Age by Jonathan Grant – and I wanted to share with you some quotes and reflections related to crossdressing and hormones / neurotransmitters. In general,...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Sexual Pleasure |
Crossdressers tend to rationalize addiction through such simple thoughts like – “But they are just clothes.” “I’m just being myself, allowing the feminine part of my personality out.” “This is not sexual, it’s about my...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender, Transgender Fiction |
I recommend to you all the book, “The Man Who Would be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism,” by J. Michael Bailey. It is FREE to read online. I thought it was an excellent read and is definitely one of the more helpful books/articles...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’d like to share one tiny piece of advice about something you can do to help you in your healing from crossdressing. This is something that can help us realize how wrong and strange crossdressing is, and also will help you at the specific times that temptation...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’m going to quoting a lengthy section from a book by Tim Keller, called Preaching: Communicating Faith in an Age of Skepticism. He brilliantly picks apart the modern ideas of our culture, including the myth of “choosing to be yourself.” He begins by...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Many people online have made the claim that I advocate suppressing your crossdressing desires. I do not actually make that claim. It is not healthy. We must acknowledge that those desires are there, and consciously choose not to act on them. If we just try to ignore...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This post is pretty basic, but from time to time I like to share simple strategies with you that have helped me to fight temptations to crossdress. I have found that taking a nap greatly helps me in times of temptation, especially those times of sexual frenzy, where I...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
We need to do whatever it takes to quit crossdressing and fight temptation. Here is a practical tip that may help you. I did a writing exercise once that was helpful to me. A television show reminded me of how kids used to do the discipline activity of writing...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
In a few days it will be Halloween. I post a reminder at this time every year. I know firsthand that it is a time of vigorous temptation. Even just seeing other people or children getting into costumes can conjure up memories of crossdressing, or fresh desires to...
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
It is difficult to keep up with all the changing labels and terminology for LGBT people today. Some people have already added several letters to the LGBT. And isn’t it Facebook that gives you 50 choices for your sex on your profile? I think all these labels are...
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Identity, My Personal Journey, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
I want to counteract what I see as false advertising on the internet, even if that false advertising is unintentional. Crossdressers on internet forums and blogs make out that giving up crossdressing is a sure-fire way to be miserable and stressed out, a sure-fire way...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Halloween is coming up, a very strange holiday, and a particularly dangerous holiday for us. I want to remind you that even if your wife, or girlfriend, or mother, or friends think dressing you up as a woman is a playful harmless thing, it is not harmless for us. For...
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