by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender Fiction |
In 2 Samuel chapters 11-12, we read the story of David committing adultery with Bathsheba. And then, to cover up his sin, he found a way to have Uriah, Bathsheba’s husband, killed. Finally, God sent the prophet Nathan to challenge and rebuke David. In the end,...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Temptations |
One of the temptations I have faced, and I’m sure many of you also deal with, is the desire to use photo editors and phone apps to change photos to make yourself look like a woman. Some apps these days are so advanced that all you need to do is upload a photo and it...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations |
Merry Christmas! This week I thought I’d write about Christmas and how it relates to our struggle. What we celebrate at Christmas is the beauty and mystery of the incarnation (God made flesh) – the Son, the second person of the Trinity, taking on human...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations |
Because of the nature of addiction, you cannot fight your addiction alone. You will need help. I’ve said this so many times on this blog, but you need to find an accountability partner! In this post I want to talk about the merits of having an accountability...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Most people who come to this blog wrongly jump to conclusions about me. Some people think that one day I decided to give up crossdressing and everything has been easy sailing since. And so they despair when they themselves are not able to give it up so easily and when...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
We can stand our ground, brace ourselves, learn self-control, and resist in the face of strong urges to crossdress. But that gets tiring. So many crossdressers that come to this site try quitting and they find that they can do so. But then they get weary and say,...
by Barnabas | Aug 15, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I’ve been reminded recently that crossdressing, especially crossdressing for sexual pleasure, is one of the hardest things for other people to understand. And that makes us feel oh so alone. Even if we don’t crossdress anymore, we still experience some of...
by Barnabas | Aug 14, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Psychologists, Temptations, Testimonies |
I have told quite a number of people in my life about my crossdressing addiction, both professionals, and also close family and friends. So I’d like to share some wisdom about how to best do this and some general tips. In every case of telling someone, things...
by Barnabas | Aug 14, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I read a book called – Divine Sex: A Compelling Vision for Christian Relationship in a Hypersexualized Age by Jonathan Grant – and I wanted to share with you some quotes and reflections related to crossdressing and hormones / neurotransmitters. In general,...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’d like to share one tiny piece of advice about something you can do to help you in your healing from crossdressing. This is something that can help us realize how wrong and strange crossdressing is, and also will help you at the specific times that temptation...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations, Transgender |
This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Prayer, Temptations, Testimonies |
I would assume that many of my readers out there are skeptical that healing from crossdressing addiction is possible. Some might say, “sure maybe the author of the blog could stop crossdressing just because he is a pastor, but for most people they will not have...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Temptations |
Yes you CAN stop crossdressing. You can find a change in your desires. You can have self-control. You can save your marriage. You can stop fantasizing about crossdressing. You can live as a man. You can still be happy. Change is possible. It is possible to stop...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations, Transgender |
I wanted to highlight the spiritual discipline of fasting as a practical tool to help you. It’s not something that everyone has to do, and it is not something that benefits everyone in the same way. But it has helped me in my recovery from crossdressing addiction and...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Pornography, Temptations |
This short video/article by John Piper is a very helpful reality check in our battle with sexual sins – You Can Say No to Porn. We often feel out of control with our sexual desires. We feel that it is impossible to resist. We feel overwhelmed by the temptations....
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’m going to quoting a lengthy section from a book by Tim Keller, called Preaching: Communicating Faith in an Age of Skepticism. He brilliantly picks apart the modern ideas of our culture, including the myth of “choosing to be yourself.” He begins by...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations |
Recently I listened to this free sermon online by Pastor Tim Keller. It was a powerful message for any Christian, but for me when thinking about crossdressing it was especially insightful. I highly recommend it – Spiritual Warfare by Tim Keller. If the links do...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Suffering, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
This is a very interesting video about homosexuality and the Church’s response to homosexuals. However, the points brought up have a lot to tell us about crossdressing. It is an interview by the Gospel Coalition of Rosaria Butterfield, who was not only a lesbian...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Many people online have made the claim that I advocate suppressing your crossdressing desires. I do not actually make that claim. It is not healthy. We must acknowledge that those desires are there, and consciously choose not to act on them. If we just try to ignore...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This post is pretty basic, but from time to time I like to share simple strategies with you that have helped me to fight temptations to crossdress. I have found that taking a nap greatly helps me in times of temptation, especially those times of sexual frenzy, where I...
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