by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Bible, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity |
During devotions recently I came across these wonderful little verses that I never noticed before – 1 Corinthians 16:13-14 – In the ESV: 13 Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. 14 Let all that you do be done in love. NIV: 13 Be on...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Temptations |
I’ve said many times that although we can resist crossdressing, it is likely that our desires will never “fully” go away. See my post on that – Healing doesn’t mean no more temptations. But in this post I’d like to challenge myself...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Temptations, Transgender |
The Bible doesn’t say a lot about crossdressing and autogynephilia, but it says more about homosexuality. How can understanding homosexuality and the Bible’s view of it help us to understand better how to think about crossdressing? A friend sent me an...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to share a great idea. If you want to limit your crossdressing, both your actual practice, and your temptations, then grow a beard or a mustache. Here are a few of my thoughts. On the one hand, having a beard or mustache seems like a stereotypically manly thing...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations, Transgender |
Our culture very much values freedom and freewill. It’s basically the supreme American value. And that is why I am so often completely stunned that people quickly deny their own freedom, in order to rationalize their behavior. It doesn’t make sense to me....
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Crossdressing, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This is one tool to fight crossdressing temptations that helped me a lot even though it seems a little bit counter-intuitive. When crossdressing temptations would come, I would, like all of you, have a thought about how pleasurable it might be. One of the things I did...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Homosexuality |
One of the things that I have come across often in conversations about crossdressing or homosexuality (and many other controversial issues), is the charge that Christians just pick and choose what they want to follow from the Bible. Non-Christians (and even some...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Addiction, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Identity, Psychologists, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I read an article in the past, which has since been removed, about people using gender identity disorder in court as a defense for criminal action. This made me think more generally about the idea of people having “disorders.” What are the ramifications...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Practical Tips, Prayer, Temptations |
It’s Halloween season. It’s a crossdresser’s paradise. Many of you might be thinking about dressing up because your wife or friends won’t actually think less of you for doing so. Some of you might even have wives or girlfriends who would have a...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Prayer, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Dreams, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Dreams have been one of the biggest problems I have had over the years in giving up crossdressing and trying to keep from fantasizing about it. I know I am not alone. If you are like me, you can go months without thinking about crossdressing during the day, but then...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Suffering, Transgender |
I found an interesting resource, an Armenian medical network encyclopedia section on transvestism. The section is called – Transvestism and Gender Identity Disorder in Adults. Prepare yourself for a lot of reading! Notice that the link I gave is only page 1 of...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Dreams, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This is a pretty graphic topic, but it seems practical enough for me to talk about, because dealing with these issues is a reality for most of us. First of all, if you want my thoughts on masturbation, see my long post on it here. I’ll try not to repeat myself...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Singleness, Temptations |
Whew, this is a heavy and personal topic, but I think it needs to be addressed. Is masturbation okay for a Christian? Or is it sinful? This is a long debate and I don’t have all the answers, but I’ve thought a lot about. In fact, my views about it have...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
** Unfortunately since writing this article, the Expose MInistries website seems to be down. But I’ll leave up this article as some people might find the quotations useful. ** I’ve been reading some articles from the Expose ministries website. Expose...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, My Personal Journey, Temptations |
I’ve done a lot of reading online about crossdressing, and it is very common for me to come across a quote like, “you can try to give up crossdressing for a while, but it will always come back eventually.” Sometimes this kind of statement is...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to suggest a very practical tip in your healing from crossdressing addiction. Simply put, I suggest you take time to exercise, get in shape, and lift weights. It has been really helpful for me to lift weights and do pushups and other exercises that tone and...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Intersexual Conditions, Transgender |
The occurrence of people born with bodies that have some biological male traits and some biological female traits have led many people in our mainstream culture to reject not only a gender binary but also a sexual binary. It is common to hear people argue that we are...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
I’ve been reading lately about science. I love learning and I also think it’s good for pastors like me to keep on learning about science, even if some of it goes over my head. I’ve been reflecting on some scientific findings that relate to our...
by Barnabas | Jun 8, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Identity, Prayer |
This song has been a welcome light in my journey of accepting myself as the man that God has made me to be. It might be helpful to the rest of you as you struggle to live in your identity as a man, and fight your urges to crossdress. The song is not directly about...
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