by Barnabas | Sep 22, 2022 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Identity, Temptations |
By Simon I have read Barnabas’ blog post on What Causes People to Change and I’ve been thinking about rewards and consequences for promoting change in our behavior. I also read through the Transvestic Career Path and thought about the fourth...
by Barnabas | Aug 15, 2022 | Church, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Testimonies, Transgender |
Written by Deborah From my earliest memories I wanted to be a boy and despised everything to do with being a girl. I dressed in boys clothes, played with my brothers’ toys and rode my bmx with them. Nothing changed in my teens. I didn’t see anything wrong with...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2022 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
Though we mostly write about autogynephilia and crossdressing as a sexual addiction, we realize that there is great diversity among crossdressers. There are so many different causes, motives, and end goals for crossdressing. But it can be hard to divide crossdressers...
by Barnabas | May 7, 2022 | Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Testimonies |
Written by Apollos Early on in my counseling sessions I revealed to my therapist that I believe that I know why I started to crossdress when I was a child. He suggested that I write a letter to the person that was instrumental in encouraging my...
by Barnabas | Apr 13, 2022 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Guest Posts, Identity, Testimonies, Transgender |
By Justin One of my most vivid memories as a pubescent boy struggling with gender dysphoria was being alone at night laying in my bed and being so upset with that fact that I had been born a boy. I wished so hard many nights that I would wake up and my life...
by Barnabas | Mar 29, 2022 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Prayer, Temptations |
Written by TJ I am writing this as a warning both to myself, and anyone who desires to read this. I have prayed for the proper words to get the necessary points across, so please bear with me. I am all too aware that my words have no power or impact – unless...
by Barnabas | Mar 14, 2022 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
A friend recommended to me the book – “Living with a Transvestite: A Phenomenological Study of Wives and Committed Partners of Transvestite” by Heather Christine Freegard. It is free to download, so any of you can read it! All in all it was a book...
by Barnabas | Feb 4, 2022 | Addiction, Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Guest Posts |
Written by Ewan One of the hardest things about recovery is relapse. That is, after enjoying a period of not engaging in crossdressing thoughts or behaviours, going back to it. It’s frustrating: “Will I ever get rid of this in my life?” It’s demoralising: “I...
by Barnabas | Jan 21, 2022 | Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender Fiction |
It occurred to me recently that a part of our recovery and healing process as former crossdressers should be to examine our hearts to specifically repent of our sexism, and ask God to transform our hearts and minds. Why do I say this? My experience with crossdressing...
by Barnabas | Dec 8, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
Written by Ewan One of my first memories is of messing around in the attic when I was about 5 years old. I put on a pair of my mum’s boots. I liked the feeling. My brother laughed. Since then I have always had these two parts to me; the bit that loves the...
by Barnabas | Oct 13, 2021 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
As people visit this website and ask for my advice, one of the most common struggles reported is difficulty during sex in marriage even after crossdressing has been left behind. This can be for many reasons. One of the most common is that wives feel betrayed and hurt...
by Barnabas | Sep 20, 2021 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Practical Tips, Purges of Clothing, Temptations |
An Atheist’s 12 Steps to Stop Crossdressing Introduction – Some of my readers may wonder why I, Barnabas, as a Christian pastor running this very clearly Christian website, would publish a guest post by an atheist. Let me explain. I have not given up my...
by Barnabas | Aug 18, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Suffering, Testimonies |
This is a post of questions asked by ex-crossdressers in the Christian Recovery Group. They gave these questions to the wives of crossdressers who are in the Private Wives Group , a support and prayer group. The questions are answered by six different wives who have a...
by Barnabas | Jul 23, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
In this post are questions asked by wives in the Private Wives Group which is a support and prayer group for wives of crossdressers. The questions are answered by a few former crossdressers from the Christian Recovery Group. The wives have very diverse experiences...
by Barnabas | Jun 23, 2021 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Medications, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Practical Tips, Psychologists |
I appreciated the book, “The Paraphilias: Changing Suits in the Evolution of Sexual Interest Paradigms” by J. Paul Fedoroff. I found it not only tremendously fascinating but quite helpful. You don’t all need to go out and purchase the book because the book is...
by Barnabas | Jun 1, 2021 | Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Guest Post Written by N.H.A. I’m in my office working at my desk when my wife peeks in to tell me she is leaving for her meeting. She looks beautiful… her outfit, hair, eyes, smile. And her perfume – she even smells beautiful. She tells me...
by Barnabas | May 5, 2021 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Identity, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Pornography, Psychologists, Transgender |
By Chris PB: Like most of those who have struggled with the affliction of crossdressing, my own personal experience began when I was about 5 or 6 years old. It was spurred on by some form or another of playing “dress-up” with my sister, and being affirmed...
by Barnabas | Apr 11, 2021 | Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Transgender |
1 Peter 3:15-16 – But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak...
by Barnabas | Mar 5, 2021 | Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Identity |
Written by Ewan I wonder whether we recognise how powerful a name is. Names are our identity. They are who people know us as. They often hint at something about the person. In the Bible, Abram (father) became Abraham (father of many); Peter was the rock on...
by Barnabas | Feb 3, 2021 | Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Practical Tips, Psychologists, Temptations |
Written by Ewan It isn’t easy to open up and talk about crossdressing. That sense of shame that so many of us feel, coupled with not being taught how to talk, as well as the many secret corners of our hearts that we just don’t know how to access (or...
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