Lifting Weights and becoming muscular

Lifting Weights and becoming muscular

I want to suggest a very practical tip in your healing from crossdressing addiction. Simply put, I suggest you take time to exercise, get in shape, and lift weights. It has been really helpful for me to lift weights and do pushups and other exercises that tone and...

Is behavior determined by biology?

I’ve been reading lately about science. I love learning and I also think it’s good for pastors like me to keep on learning about science, even if some of it goes over my head. I’ve been reflecting on some scientific findings that relate to our...
Helpful Bible Verses 4

Helpful Bible Verses 5

In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...

Crossdressing can become idolatry

In this post, I am going to talk about how I think crossdressing can easily become idolatry, in the same way that money or other good or neutral things in life can easily become an idol. This is different from me saying that crossdressing is always necessarily...

Unconditioning

For most of us who crossdressed in the past, there was some conditioning going on. We desired to crossdress, but the more we engaged in it, the more we desired it. We got some sexual pleasure from crossdressing at first, but the more we crossdressed, the more pleasure...

My Addiction to Crossdressing Fiction

I wanted to write about a manifestation of my crossdressing addiction that is really important for you to hear about because many of you have probably struggled with the same thing. In the past, when I was addicted to crossdressing, it might be more accurate to say I...

How I successfully fought temptation…but then failed

Years ago, I wrote this personal post to help others who are struggling to think through fighting temptation, and how to recover from failure.   1 Corinthians 10:12 – “So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!”  As they say, pride...
Resentment, Compromise, and Escalation = Failure. Yet we rejoice in Christ!

Resentment, Compromise, and Escalation = Failure. Yet we rejoice in Christ!

I wrote this post years ago about a time I failed and gave in to temptation. It is always hard to write and share about failures before so many people, but when I worry about shame and guilt, I look to my Jesus who washes those feelings away by his blood, and I...
Crossdressing is like Pornography

Crossdressing is like Pornography

Over the years, God has used me to counsel quite a number of men who were addicted to pornography. In addition, I’ve had the privilege of having many good accountability partners throughout my life, a couple of whom struggled with pornography. I have found that...

Crossdressing is about Envy

Proverbs 14:30 – A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Pondering the nature of crossdressing desires over the years made me convinced that a significant component of crossdressing is envy or coveting. I think crossdressing is sinful...