by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Temptations |
I’ve said many times that although we can resist crossdressing, it is likely that our desires will never “fully” go away. See my post on that – Healing doesn’t mean no more temptations. But in this post I’d like to challenge myself...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to share a great idea. If you want to limit your crossdressing, both your actual practice, and your temptations, then grow a beard or a mustache. Here are a few of my thoughts. On the one hand, having a beard or mustache seems like a stereotypically manly thing...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Dreams, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Dreams have been one of the biggest problems I have had over the years in giving up crossdressing and trying to keep from fantasizing about it. I know I am not alone. If you are like me, you can go months without thinking about crossdressing during the day, but then...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, My Personal Journey, Temptations |
I’ve done a lot of reading online about crossdressing, and it is very common for me to come across a quote like, “you can try to give up crossdressing for a while, but it will always come back eventually.” Sometimes this kind of statement is...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to suggest a very practical tip in your healing from crossdressing addiction. Simply put, I suggest you take time to exercise, get in shape, and lift weights. It has been really helpful for me to lift weights and do pushups and other exercises that tone and...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
I’ve been reading lately about science. I love learning and I also think it’s good for pastors like me to keep on learning about science, even if some of it goes over my head. I’ve been reflecting on some scientific findings that relate to our...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
One thing I believe most of us realize sooner or later, whether ex-crossdressers, or those still stuck in the addiction, is that the addiction goes beyond actual crossdressing. Crossdressers are not only sexually turned on by the image or the thrill of crossdressing,...
by Barnabas | May 12, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Idolatry, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | May 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | May 10, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Dreams, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
In this post, I am going to talk about how crossdressing can easily become idolatry. Of course I do not refer to consciously worshipping crossdressing. I mean idolatry in the sense of putting something else as a god in your life, in the same way that money or power...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
In overcoming an addiction like crossdressing, trans porn, or sissy hypnosis, honesty is more important than sobriety. This is something that I stress with my accountability partners. You can’t help yourself or get help from others unless you are first honest....
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Pornography, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
For most of us who crossdressed in the past, there was some conditioning going on. We desired to crossdress, but the more we engaged in it, the more we desired it. We got some sexual pleasure from crossdressing at first, but the more we crossdressed, the more pleasure...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations, Transgender, Transgender Fiction |
Struggling with autogynephilia or transvestic fetishism can take different forms. It does not always involve real women’s clothing. Sometimes, perhaps most of the time, it is actually an issue of our heads and our hearts. The most common way of acting on our...
by Barnabas | May 6, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure |
Years ago, I wrote this post about a failure I had in order to help others who are also fighting crossdressing temptations. It’s important to share about some of my past failures as well as about my successes in order to truly in order to truly help others. Here...
by Barnabas | May 6, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Dreams, Forgiveness, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Years ago, I wrote this personal post to help others who are struggling to think through fighting temptation, and how to recover from failure. 1 Corinthians 10:12 – “So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!” As they say, pride...
by Barnabas | May 6, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I wrote this post years ago about a time I failed and gave in to temptation. It is always hard to write and share about failures before so many people, but when I worry about shame and guilt, I look to my Jesus who washes those feelings away by his blood, and I...
by Barnabas | May 5, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations, Transgender Fiction |
Over the years, God has used me to counsel many men who were addicted to pornography, both guys addicted to trans porn or guys struggling with regular heterosexual porn. I have found that there are actually a lot of similarities between struggling with autogynephilia,...
by Barnabas | May 5, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Identity, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Suffering |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual...
by Barnabas | May 5, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Transgender |
Proverbs 14:30 – A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. When we reflect on the nature of crossdressing desires, whether its transvestic fetishism or autogynephilia, we can see that a significant component is envy or coveting....
by Barnabas | May 5, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations |
According to many crossdressers online, it is impossible for us to ever lose our crossdressing desires. According to many Christians, our crossdressing desires (or other sinful desires) will go away as soon as we pray and ask God to take them away. I disagree with...
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