by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Church, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Testimonies |
When I originally started this blog, it was very helpful to me, and I enjoyed it so much that it was getting in the way of my role of pastoring a church in real life. I was spending too much time on it. It energized me to work on this blog. I was finally getting my...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations, Transgender |
This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations, Transgender |
I wanted to highlight the spiritual discipline of fasting as a practical tool to help you. It’s not something that everyone has to do, and it is not something that benefits everyone in the same way. But it has helped me in my recovery from crossdressing addiction and...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, My Personal Journey |
One of the most helpful books I’ve read on the topic of what it means to be a man or woman is the book – “Biblical Foundations for Manhood and Womanhood.” I want to recommend it to all of you. If you click on the link you can read it for free. It’s by Wayne Grudem as...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Many people online have made the claim that I advocate suppressing your crossdressing desires. I do not actually make that claim. It is not healthy. We must acknowledge that those desires are there, and consciously choose not to act on them. If we just try to ignore...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This post is pretty basic, but from time to time I like to share simple strategies with you that have helped me to fight temptations to crossdress. I have found that taking a nap greatly helps me in times of temptation, especially those times of sexual frenzy, where I...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey |
Crossdressers love to play dress-up. I’ve been there. I know the secret pleasures of hours in front of the mirror playing dress-up with clothes that were not meant for me. Ah, but that time is gone. And I don’t miss it. What a fruitless activity. What a...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
We need to do whatever it takes to quit crossdressing and fight temptation. Here is a practical tip that may help you. I did a writing exercise once that was helpful to me. A television show reminded me of how kids used to do the discipline activity of writing...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dreams, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists |
By OCD, I am of course referring to Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. I’ve been looking at a number of websites and articles online that talk about a connection between OCD and crossdressing. It’s very interesting to me because 1. I have OCD (self diagnosed)...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 15, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Temptations, Testimonies |
Can God heal you or cure you from crossdressing? More specifically, can God remove your autogynephilia disposition, your cross-gender desires? Can God remove your gender discomfort? Can God remove all desire to crossdress? Yes, I believe he can do all of those things....
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Identity, My Personal Journey, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
I want to counteract what I see as false advertising on the internet, even if that false advertising is unintentional. Crossdressers on internet forums and blogs make out that giving up crossdressing is a sure-fire way to be miserable and stressed out, a sure-fire way...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Halloween is coming up, a very strange holiday, and a particularly dangerous holiday for us. I want to remind you that even if your wife, or girlfriend, or mother, or friends think dressing you up as a woman is a playful harmless thing, it is not harmless for us. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual sin. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Dreams, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Temptations |
In this post I want to analyze the similarities between a struggle with crossdressing and the power of the one ring in The Lord of the Rings books. I am not writing this as a logical argument against crossdressing. I’m just writing out of my own experience of...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey |
This is one of my favorite songs – “This is how it feels to be free.” I remember a choir singing it once during a church service about victory over sexual sin. The choir singing it was much more powerful than this rendition. But perhaps that is just...
by Barnabas | Jun 20, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Suffering |
As I think about all the hurt and suffering in marriages I hear about from the community at this website, from both men and women, I would like to recommend the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas. It will be helpful to read for anyone who is both married and a...
by Barnabas | Jun 13, 2018 | Crossdressing, Envy, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I believe that some of our desire to crossdress is due to natural curiosity. Perhaps we initially crossdressed the first time because of curiousity, but that event became a sexual experience at the same time, thus fusing the bond between ourselves and crossdressing...
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