by Barnabas | Aug 15, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I’ve been reminded recently that crossdressing, especially crossdressing for sexual pleasure, is one of the hardest things for other people to understand. And that makes us feel oh so alone. Even if we don’t crossdress anymore, we still experience some of...
by Barnabas | Aug 14, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I read a book called – Divine Sex: A Compelling Vision for Christian Relationship in a Hypersexualized Age by Jonathan Grant – and I wanted to share with you some quotes and reflections related to crossdressing and hormones / neurotransmitters. In general,...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Sexual Pleasure |
There have been so many times in the past that I rationalized my addiction to crossdressing through such simple thoughts like – “But they are just clothes.” “I’m just being myself, allowing the feminine part of my personality out.”...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender, Transgender Fiction |
I recommend to you all the book, “The Man Who Would be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism,” by J. Michael Bailey. It is FREE to read online. I thought it was an excellent read and is definitely one of the more helpful books/articles...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’d like to share one tiny piece of advice about something you can do to help you in your healing from crossdressing. This is something that can help us realize how wrong and strange crossdressing is, and also will help you at the specific times that temptation...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’m going to quoting a lengthy section from a book by Tim Keller, called Preaching: Communicating Faith in an Age of Skepticism. He brilliantly picks apart the modern ideas of our culture, including the myth of “choosing to be yourself.” He begins by...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Many people online have made the claim that I advocate suppressing your crossdressing desires. I do not actually make that claim. It is not healthy. We must acknowledge that those desires are there, and consciously choose not to act on them. If we just try to ignore...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This post is pretty basic, but from time to time I like to share simple strategies with you that have helped me to fight temptations to crossdress. I have found that taking a nap greatly helps me in times of temptation, especially those times of sexual frenzy, where I...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
We need to do whatever it takes to quit crossdressing and fight temptation. Here is a practical tip that may help you. I did a writing exercise once that was helpful to me. A television show reminded me of how kids used to do the discipline activity of writing...
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Masturbation, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure |
I have looked at a lot (thousands and thousands) of crossdressing photos on the internet over my life (and I deeply regret it). One thing I have noticed from pictures of active crossdressers as well as pictures of one-time crossdressers, is the number of sexual poses....
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
In a few days it will be Halloween. I post a reminder at this time every year. I know firsthand that it is a time of vigorous temptation. Even just seeing other people or children getting into costumes can conjure up memories of crossdressing, or fresh desires to...
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Homosexuality, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
It is difficult to keep up with all the changing labels and terminology for LGBT people today. Some people have already added several letters to the LGBT. And isn’t it Facebook that gives you 50 choices for your sex on your profile? I think all these labels are...
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Identity, My Personal Journey, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
I want to counteract what I see as false advertising on the internet, even if that false advertising is unintentional. Crossdressers on internet forums and blogs make out that giving up crossdressing is a sure-fire way to be miserable and stressed out, a sure-fire way...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Halloween is coming up, a very strange holiday, and a particularly dangerous holiday for us. I want to remind you that even if your wife, or girlfriend, or mother, or friends think dressing you up as a woman is a playful harmless thing, it is not harmless for us. For...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Sexual Pleasure |
On some forum or blog this link came up and I looked at it. It’s pretty thought provoking to consider fetishes and paraphilias in general, but especially to think of this theory in light of crossdressing – What Causes Spanking Fetishes? A testable model....
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Sexual Pleasure |
Some time ago I watched an episode of the television show “House.” It’s a doctor show about diagnosing patients, but they really get into the personal issues of the patients in the show. I found this episode very interesting in the parallels I saw to...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Envy, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I was recently asked in a comment to explain my reasons why I believe crossdressing is sinful, or why it is harmful. It’s a good question. While my whole website is essentially about this with many articles, it is a bit overwhelming for someone to jump in and...
by Barnabas | Jun 14, 2018 | Crossdressing, Cultural Ideologies and Trends, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I am frustrated with myself and other crossdressers for expecting or even ever once having a hope for our wives to act as lesbians. If you are a Christian and believe homosexual behavior is sinful, than trying to get your wife to act this way with you (while you are...
by Barnabas | Jun 13, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure |
This is a very helpful and enlightening video. It is called The Great Porn Experiment. The video is about the effect that pornography is having on men and on the wider culture. As many of you probably struggle with pornography in addition to crossdressing, I think...
by Barnabas | Jun 13, 2018 | Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
It’s easy to assume that our crossdressing is mostly sexual, but there are a whole host of other reasons why we do it. We need to examine our underlying reasons, the hidden motivations that brought about crossdressing in our lives in the first place. We all have...
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