by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Church, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
One of the important things to do, (that can easily be overlooked), when giving up a crossdressing alter ego, or crossdressing addiction, is to get some new hobbies. Let’s face it, crossdressing was a huge part our lives. For some of us, our crossdressed self...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips, Temptations |
It can be a huge issue for many of us to give into crossdressing while we are away from home and family on business trips. This has not been an issue for me as I don’t travel alone but am usually with other pastors. For me, it was a bigger problem to be home...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to share a great idea. If you want to limit your crossdressing, both your actual practice, and your temptations, then grow a beard or a mustache. Here are a few of my thoughts. On the one hand, having a beard or mustache seems like a stereotypically manly thing...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Crossdressing, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This is one tool to fight crossdressing temptations that helped me a lot even though it seems a little bit counter-intuitive. When crossdressing temptations would come, I would, like all of you, have a thought about how pleasurable it might be. One of the things I did...
by Barnabas | Jun 12, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Practical Tips, Prayer, Temptations |
It’s Halloween season. It’s a crossdresser’s paradise. Many of you might be thinking about dressing up because your wife or friends won’t actually think less of you for doing so. Some of you might even have wives or girlfriends who would have a...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Accountability, Crossdressing, Dreams, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Dreams have been one of the biggest problems I have had over the years in giving up crossdressing and trying to keep from fantasizing about it. I know I am not alone. If you are like me, you can go months without thinking about crossdressing during the day, but then...
by Barnabas | Jun 10, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I want to suggest a very practical tip in your healing from crossdressing addiction. Simply put, I suggest you take time to exercise, get in shape, and lift weights. It has been really helpful for me to lift weights and do pushups and other exercises that tone and...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Embracing Manhood, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Transgender |
I thought it would be helpful to compile a list of good beginning steps for those who want to give up crossdressing (or other autogynephilic related behaviors) for good. This is just a starting point for those who wish to stop crossdressing completely. Stopping...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Church, Crossdressing, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips |
I chose this picture because it encapsulates one aspect of loving churches, that is loving fellowship and meals together. In our culture, it seems to me that most people think that churches are full of judgmental and hypocritical people. On the one hand, I want to...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Forgiveness, Guest Posts, Marriage, Masturbation, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
About the Author By Ewan Becoming a Man What do you do to relax on a Friday night? Have a drink? Watch the telly? See a show? Much to the bemusement of my wife, recently I chose to polish my shoes. No matter how hard I tried to explain why I enjoyed it, my wife...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Accountability, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Identity, Practical Tips, Testimonies |
About the Author By Andrew – see Andrew’s Testimony Why do I do what I do? There are various things that we learn as we go through our lives. One of the things that I have taken through my journey of recovery is a model of self-examination that is a...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Accountability, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
In overcoming an addiction like crossdressing, trans porn, or sissy hypnosis, honesty is more important than sobriety. This is something that I stress with my accountability partners. You can’t help yourself or get help from others unless you are first honest....
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Pornography, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
For most of us who crossdressed in the past, there was some conditioning going on. We desired to crossdress, but the more we engaged in it, the more we desired it. We got some sexual pleasure from crossdressing at first, but the more we crossdressed, the more pleasure...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Guest Posts, Practical Tips, Testimonies |
About the Author By Andrew – See Andrew’s Testimony Celebrate Recovery! It was between 9 and 10 years ago that my son was in a recovery program through a hospital here in Illinois. I prayed for his success and for him to come out of it clean and...
by Barnabas | May 7, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Church, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Guest Posts, Masturbation, Pornography, Practical Tips, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender Fiction |
About the Author By Andrew – See Andrew’s Testimony XXXchurch.com Can you imagine a website where prostitutes are prayed for and where pornography is not heralded as a first amendment right? Welcome to XXXchurch.com. I invite all who seek to be...
by Barnabas | May 7, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
About the Author By Alec – see Alec’s Testimony. Alec is a recovering crossdresser who attends Sexaholics Anonymous meetings in person, over the phone, face to face, and through an email discussion group. Sexaholics Anonymous / Sex Addicts Anonymous...
by Barnabas | May 6, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Masturbation, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
About the Author Written by Alec Alec’s Testimony Hello, My name is Alec. I am a recovering sex and lust addict getting my thrill through crossdressing, rather than porn or strip clubs. I basically have the same story of most 53 year old closeted...
by Barnabas | May 6, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I wrote this post years ago about a time I failed and gave in to temptation. It is always hard to write and share about failures before so many people, but when I worry about shame and guilt, I look to my Jesus who washes those feelings away by his blood, and I...
by Barnabas | May 5, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
A friend once noted the importance of making affirmations in order to overcome crossdressing. His point was to make declarations about yourself and to yourself. I don’t believe we can change reality only by our thoughts. I would not tell myself an affirmation...
by Barnabas | May 4, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Marriage, Practical Tips, Prayer, Purges of Clothing, Temptations |
In my struggle with crossdressing, many Bible verses have been helpful to me. I’ve studied them, memorized some of them, and often read them after failures. I’ll periodically mention and comment on some of them and how they relate to our fight with sexual...
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