by Barnabas | May 15, 2020 | Additional Resources, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
This is strange blog post to write, but at this site we deal with the real issues that confront us, and this is one of them! Some of us have an added burden or difficulty besides the desire to crossdress. Some of us have man boobs, that is, breasts that are bigger...
by Barnabas | Dec 28, 2019 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Sometimes what causes us to fail is simply having a wrong attitude and mindset about the whole process of overcoming crossdressing addiction or sexual addictions of any kind. I have found myself dropping into a false mindset often. At times, I focus too much on the...
by Barnabas | Sep 21, 2019 | Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips |
I have written extensively about how crossdressing is or can become a replacement for one’s girlfriend or wife. See these posts – Autogynephilia Versus Heterosexuality and Becoming the Woman my Wife is Not and Crossdressing without sexual pleasure. Often the...
by Barnabas | Jan 8, 2019 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
If you’ve spent much time reading about crossdressing online then you will probably know about the term “purging” and all of the wisdom and lore that has built up around this idea. Purging is basically the act of getting rid of all of your female...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
When a sexual temptation like crossdressing comes up, many of us feel like we go into a frenzy. We lose our heads and feel like we need to give in. We can’t think as logically as we normally would. For me, my body would sometimes even shake thinking about the...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Church, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Dysphoria, Identity, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips |
I’ve been thinking about how God made me and what kind of man he made me to be. I think part of the healing that needs to take place in many of us, is that we need to be able to appreciate who God made us to be. We need to accept not only our gender, but our...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations |
I wanted to quickly mention several other practical things you can do to minimize crossdressing temptations in your life. They are all things that have helped me personally. 1. You and your wife could use separate closets – If you have a spare bedroom in your...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations |
Many of us here are addicts – whether to crossdressing, trans porn, sissy hypnosis, or reading transgender fiction. Because of the nature of addiction, you cannot fight your addiction alone. You will need help. I’ve said this so many times on this website,...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Marriage, Masturbation, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Singleness |
One thing that has helped me a lot is purposefully cultivating my desire and attraction to my wife. I specifically try to do so by pondering Bible passages like Proverbs 5:18-19 and keeping them running through my mind throughout the day: 18 May your fountain be...
by Barnabas | Sep 10, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Temptations |
We can stand our ground, brace ourselves, learn self-control, and resist in the face of strong urges to crossdress. But that gets tiring. So many crossdressers that come to this site try quitting and they find that they can do so. But then they get weary and say,...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’d like to share one tiny piece of advice about something you can do to help you in your healing from crossdressing. This is something that can help us realize how wrong and strange crossdressing is, and also will help you at the specific times that temptation...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations, Transgender |
This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, Practical Tips |
This is a common topic of interest for wives who have husbands dealing with cross-gender sexual addictions, and also for the men themselves who are dealing with these burdens, and want to know how to talk about it with their wives. For wives just learning about their...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations, Transgender |
I wanted to highlight the spiritual discipline of fasting as a practical tool to help you. It’s not something that everyone has to do, and it is not something that benefits everyone in the same way. But it has helped me in my recovery from crossdressing addiction and...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Many people online have made the claim that I advocate suppressing your crossdressing desires. I do not actually make that claim. It is not healthy. We must acknowledge that those desires are there, and consciously choose not to act on them. If we just try to ignore...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This post is pretty basic, but from time to time I like to share simple strategies with you that have helped me to fight temptations to crossdress. I have found that taking a nap greatly helps me in times of temptation, especially those times of sexual frenzy, where I...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
We need to do whatever it takes to quit crossdressing and fight temptation. Here is a practical tip that may help you. I did a writing exercise once that was helpful to me. A television show reminded me of how kids used to do the discipline activity of writing...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Marriage, Practical Tips, Prayer, Purges of Clothing, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations |
A lot of people say they have tried to quit crossdressing or sissy hypnosis. Some even say they have tried everything. In some cases, I believe it. It can be really tough to overcome addiction even when you ask for help. But many of these people have not really tried....
by Barnabas | Jul 16, 2018 | Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Practical Tips, Temptations |
Psalm 144:1 Praise be to the Lord my Rock, who trains my hands for war, my fingers for battle. I love this verse for thinking about spiritual warfare and avoiding sin while on the computer. Originally the context was speaking about actual war as King David relied on...
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