by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Church, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Idolatry, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
I know many pastors, Christian counselors, and wives of crossdressers are coming to my website, probably in the hopes of finding help in ministering to crossdressers, transsexuals, or people struggling with gender dysphoria. I can tell this by looking at the search...
by Barnabas | Sep 14, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Dysphoria, Homosexuality, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Temptations |
A common and understandable question that many of us wrestle with is, “was I born this way?” Is my autogynephilia biologically caused? Did something go wrong with exposure to hormones in the womb that made me more feminine than normal men? We long for...
by Barnabas | Sep 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Church, Crossdressing, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Origins of the Desires, Pastoral Ministry, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I want to strongly recommend Mark Yarhouse’s book called “Understanding Gender Dysphoria.” You can read about Dr. Yarhouse – here. He is an expert on matters of sexual identity, and is well respected by both Christians and non-Christians. To be honest, I did not agree...
by Barnabas | Aug 15, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
I’ve been reminded recently that crossdressing, especially crossdressing for sexual pleasure (autogynephilic crossdressing or tranvestic fetishism), is one of the hardest things for other people to understand. And that makes us feel so alone. Even if we...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Sexual Pleasure |
Crossdressers tend to rationalize addiction through such simple thoughts like – “But they are just clothes.” “I’m just being myself, allowing the feminine part of my personality out.” “This is not sexual, it’s about my...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender, Transgender Fiction |
I recommend to you all the book, “The Man Who Would be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism,” by J. Michael Bailey. It is FREE to read online. I thought it was an excellent read and is definitely one of the more helpful books/articles...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Law and Policy, Psychologists, Testimonies, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I recently finished reading the book, When Harry Became Sally, by Ryan Anderson of the Heritage Foundation. This is a really well written book that examines the “transgender moment” our country has been in. Though I’m not thrilled about the title to this...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations, Transgender |
This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, Practical Tips |
This is a common topic of interest for wives who have husbands dealing with cross-gender sexual addictions, and also for the men themselves who are dealing with these burdens, and want to know how to talk about it with their wives. For wives just learning about their...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Temptations |
I am not surprised that some of our readers are skeptical that healing from crossdressing, autogynephilia, or gender dysphoria is really possible. Maybe they have tried to quit several times, but never been successful. Or they know the pain of their own dysphoria. I...
by Barnabas | Jul 15, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Homosexuality, My Personal Journey, Prayer, Temptations, Testimonies |
Can God heal you or cure you from crossdressing? More specifically, can God remove your autogynephilia disposition, your cross-gender desires? Can God remove your gender discomfort? Can God remove all desire to crossdress? Yes, I believe he can do all of those things....
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Transgender |
I highly suggest the article – The Transvestic Career Path – by H. Taylor Buckner. It’s an old article and some people might take offense with some of the terms or way it is written. But I find it an extremely insightful article that fits very well...
by Barnabas | Jul 13, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Identity, My Personal Journey, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Testimonies |
I want to counteract what I see as false advertising on the internet, even if that false advertising is unintentional. Crossdressers on internet forums and blogs make out that giving up crossdressing is a sure-fire way to be miserable and stressed out, a sure-fire way...
by Barnabas | Jul 12, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Origins of the Desires |
I heard about a story a pastor told to his church congregation this year. He said to the congregation: “When I was a boy I told my mother that I wanted to be beautiful. I told her, ‘tell me I’m beautiful.’ She said to me, ‘We only say...
by Barnabas | Jul 11, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Sexual Pleasure |
Some time ago I watched an episode of the television show “House.” It’s a doctor show about diagnosing patients, but they really get into the personal issues of the patients in the show. I found this episode very interesting in the parallels I saw to...
by Barnabas | Jun 11, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Suffering, Transgender |
I found an interesting resource, an Armenian medical network encyclopedia section on transvestism. The section is called – Transvestism and Gender Identity Disorder in Adults. Prepare yourself for a lot of reading! Notice that the link I gave is only page 1 of...
by Barnabas | Jun 6, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Embracing Manhood, Filters and Security, Forgiveness, Gender Roles, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Men's Fashion, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Prayer, Psychologists, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Intercourse, Temptations, Transgender |
I thought it would be helpful to compile a list of good beginning steps for those who want to give up crossdressing (or other autogynephilic related behaviors) for good. This is just a starting point for those who wish to stop crossdressing completely. Stopping...
by Barnabas | May 9, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Men's Fashion, Sexual Pleasure |
There is a common type of argument in favor of crossdressing that is commonly given, especially to wives or friends of a crossdresser. I think the argument is intentionally deceptive. Unfortunately the argument is quite effective to those who aren’t familiar...
by Barnabas | May 8, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Pornography, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations, Transgender, Transgender Fiction |
Struggling with autogynephilia or transvestic fetishism can take different forms. It does not always involve real women’s clothing. Sometimes, perhaps most of the time, it is actually an issue of our heads and our hearts. The most common way of acting on our...
by Barnabas | May 6, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Suffering |
How much of our crossdressing desire is related to having been rejected by girls when we were younger? I don’t know the answer for sure, but it seems rejection could have some part to play in developing autogynephilia. If real girls rejected you, why not create...
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