by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Sexual Pleasure |
Crossdressers tend to rationalize addiction through such simple thoughts like – “But they are just clothes.” “I’m just being myself, allowing the feminine part of my personality out.” “This is not sexual, it’s about my...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Transgender |
In this article, Pastor Tim Keller reviews several of the popular arguments Christians have recently been using to affirm romantic same-sex relationships. Many have come up with new interpretations or ways of looking at Scripture and Keller addresses those new ideas....
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Transgender |
From Matthew 1: 20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. 21 She will give birth to a...
by Barnabas | Aug 12, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender, Transgender Fiction |
I recommend to you all the book, “The Man Who Would be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism,” by J. Michael Bailey. It is FREE to read online. I thought it was an excellent read and is definitely one of the more helpful books/articles...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’d like to share one tiny piece of advice about something you can do to help you in your healing from crossdressing. This is something that can help us realize how wrong and strange crossdressing is, and also will help you at the specific times that temptation...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Church, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, My Personal Journey, Pastoral Ministry, Testimonies |
When I originally started this blog, it was very helpful to me, and I enjoyed it so much that it was getting in the way of my role of pastoring a church in real life. I was spending too much time on it. It energized me to work on this blog. I was finally getting my...
by Barnabas | Aug 10, 2018 | Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Intersexual Conditions, Law and Policy, Psychologists, Testimonies, Transgender, Transgender Analogies (Race, Eating Disorders, BIID, Species) |
I recently finished reading the book, When Harry Became Sally, by Ryan Anderson of the Heritage Foundation. This is a really well written book that examines the “transgender moment” our country has been in. Though I’m not thrilled about the title to this...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Envy, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Practical Tips, Temptations, Transgender |
This post is different from my other posts. I have written from a more neutral vantage point rather than specifically out of a Christian worldview, in the hope that this post can help others who may not share my faith. In this post, I synthesize a lot of the things I...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Accountability, Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Marriage, Practical Tips |
This is a common topic of interest for wives who have husbands dealing with cross-gender sexual addictions, and also for the men themselves who are dealing with these burdens, and want to know how to talk about it with their wives. For wives just learning about their...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Temptations |
I am not surprised that some of our readers are skeptical that healing from crossdressing, autogynephilia, or gender dysphoria is really possible. Maybe they have tried to quit several times, but never been successful. Or they know the pain of their own dysphoria. I...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Forgiveness, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations, Transgender |
I wanted to highlight the spiritual discipline of fasting as a practical tool to help you. It’s not something that everyone has to do, and it is not something that benefits everyone in the same way. But it has helped me in my recovery from crossdressing addiction and...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Sex Differences, Crossdressing, Gender Roles, Gender Stereotypes, Identity, Marriage, My Personal Journey |
One of the most helpful books I’ve read on the topic of what it means to be a man or woman is the book – “Biblical Foundations for Manhood and Womanhood.” I want to recommend it to all of you. If you click on the link you can read it for free. It’s by Wayne Grudem as...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Crossdressing, Pornography, Temptations |
This short video/article by John Piper is a very helpful reality check in our battle with sexual sins – You Can Say No to Porn. We often feel out of control with our sexual desires. We feel that it is impossible to resist. We feel overwhelmed by the temptations....
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Gender Stereotypes, Homosexuality, Identity, Origins of the Desires, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
I’m going to quoting a lengthy section from a book by Tim Keller, called Preaching: Communicating Faith in an Age of Skepticism. He brilliantly picks apart the modern ideas of our culture, including the myth of “choosing to be yourself.” He begins by...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Bible, Crossdressing, Envy, Forgiveness, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Prayer, Suffering, Temptations |
Recently I listened to this free sermon online by Pastor Tim Keller. It was a powerful message for any Christian, but for me when thinking about crossdressing it was especially insightful. I highly recommend it – Spiritual Warfare by Tim Keller. If the links do...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Biological Transgender Issues, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, News Articles, Testimonies, Transgender |
I’ve been reading up about people who got medical surgeries to alter the way their bodies look to live as the opposite sex, who then later on, decided to stop taking the hormones and live as their original biological sex once again. These transsexuals, for...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Church, Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Identity, Suffering, Temptations, Testimonies, Transgender |
This is a very interesting video about homosexuality and the Church’s response to homosexuals. However, the points brought up have a lot to tell us about crossdressing. It is an interview by the Gospel Coalition of Rosaria Butterfield, who was not only a lesbian...
by Barnabas | Jul 18, 2018 | Additional Resources, Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Origins of the Desires, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Many people online have made the claim that I advocate suppressing your crossdressing desires. I do not actually make that claim. It is not healthy. We must acknowledge that those desires are there, and consciously choose not to act on them. If we just try to ignore...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Crossdressing, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
This post is pretty basic, but from time to time I like to share simple strategies with you that have helped me to fight temptations to crossdress. I have found that taking a nap greatly helps me in times of temptation, especially those times of sexual frenzy, where I...
by Barnabas | Jul 17, 2018 | Bible, Crossdressing, Forgiveness, Men's Fashion, My Personal Journey |
Crossdressers love to play dress-up. I’ve been there. I know the secret pleasures of hours in front of the mirror playing dress-up with clothes that were not meant for me. Ah, but that time is gone. And I don’t miss it. What a fruitless activity. What a...
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