by Barnabas | Dec 26, 2025 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Envy, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Idolatry, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations, Transgender |
There is a lot of debate in online forums about whether indulging autogynephilic desires is addictive by nature or not. Some argue that there is nothing wrong or unhealthy about autogynephilia as a sexual orientation when men engage in autogynephilic behaviors in a...
by Barnabas | Oct 10, 2025 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Gender Dysphoria, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
It is really common for men with autogynephilia to end up enjoying crossdressing without any sexual component. For many of them, this is an argument they use for themselves and to other people to justify why their crossdressing is harmless and not a bad thing. Or they...
by Barnabas | May 22, 2025 | Allosexuality, Asexuality, Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Singleness |
One helpful way to handle living with autogynephilia (AGP) is learning to prioritize your heterosexuality and starve your autogynephilia. This can help to greatly lessen the strength of our autogynephilic desires over time. This is the experience I have had along with...
by Barnabas | Apr 7, 2025 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Dealing with Failures, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
In this post are questions asked by wives in the Private Wives Group which is a support and prayer group for wives of crossdressers. The questions are answered by a few former crossdressers from the Christian Recovery Group. The wives have very diverse experiences...
by Barnabas | Nov 14, 2024 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Gender Dysphoria, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Masturbation, Sexual Pleasure |
In this post, I am not out to attack men with autogynephilia (AGP). Rather, as someone who has experienced autogynephilia myself, I write out of great compassion for guys who find themselves with desires they don’t know what to do with. A start for learning how...
by Nick Smith | Oct 3, 2024 | Accountability, Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Guest Posts, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies, Transgender |
My Story – Written by Nick Smith – Healing from Crossdressing Executive Director Hello! My name is Nick Smith, and I would like to thank Barnabas for allowing me to write a guest post to share my story. If this feels like it’s intended for a broader...
by Barnabas | Mar 19, 2024 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, My Personal Journey, Paraphilias, Pornography, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Sissy Hypnosis, Temptations |
The longer I have tried to care for and help other men, the more I realize the importance of making a distinction between a harmful sexual addiction and an unwanted sexual orientation (for an explanation about why I am using the term “sexual orientation”,...
by Barnabas | Nov 22, 2023 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure |
Written by Jack: A lot of people look at cross dressing as harmless. It is fun. It doesn’t hurt them. As Christians we can see that it is disordered and spiritually it can separate us from God. But how about physical damage? It really can’t be harmful to...
by Barnabas | Jun 14, 2023 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Paraphilias, Psychologists, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
Most of my posts on this website are written from my Christian perspective on crossdressing, but sometimes it is helpful to delve into what secular researchers and psychiatrists have discovered about crossdressing. I’d like to share here an article written by...
by Barnabas | May 22, 2023 | Bible, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Marriage, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
Written by Norvic Over the last few months, I’ve discovered a new favourite Bible book- the Song of Songs. It’s not one that tends to be preached or read as much as others, but as I’ve studied it, I’ve become convinced that it’s a book that deserves the...
by Barnabas | Nov 30, 2022 | Addiction, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Homosexuality, Marriage, Masturbation, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Pornography, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure |
Earlier this year I tried to do some informal research through a survey with ex-crossdressers in this community, both Christian and non-Christian. My sample size is very small, so I realize the results are not able to hold up to scientific scrutiny. Nevertheless, the...
by Barnabas | Mar 14, 2022 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
A friend recommended to me the book – “Living with a Transvestite: A Phenomenological Study of Wives and Committed Partners of Transvestite” by Heather Christine Freegard. It is free to download, so any of you can read it! All in all it was a book...
by Barnabas | Jan 21, 2022 | Autogynephilia, Autosexuality, Bible, Crossdressing, Embracing Manhood, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender Fiction |
It occurred to me recently that a part of our recovery and healing process as former crossdressers should be to examine our hearts to specifically repent of our sexism, and ask God to transform our hearts and minds. Why do I say this? My experience with crossdressing...
by Barnabas | Dec 8, 2021 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Pornography, Sexual Pleasure, Testimonies |
Written by Ewan One of my first memories is of messing around in the attic when I was about 5 years old. I put on a pair of my mum’s boots. I liked the feeling. My brother laughed. Since then I have always had these two parts to me; the bit that loves the...
by Barnabas | Oct 13, 2021 | Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, Pornography, Practical Tips, Prayer, Sexual Intercourse, Sexual Pleasure |
As people visit this website and ask for my advice, one of the most common struggles reported is difficulty during sex in marriage even after crossdressing has been left behind. This can be for many reasons. One of the most common is that wives feel betrayed and hurt...
by Barnabas | Jun 1, 2021 | Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Guest Post Written by N.H.A. I’m in my office working at my desk when my wife peeks in to tell me she is leaving for her meeting. She looks beautiful… her outfit, hair, eyes, smile. And her perfume – she even smells beautiful. She tells me...
by Barnabas | Oct 7, 2020 | Accountability, Addiction, Crossdressing, Filters and Security, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Marriage, My Personal Journey, Practical Tips, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Change is hard. What causes a crossdresser to make a decision to stop crossdressing? And for crossdressers who successfully stop and find happiness without crossdressing in their lives, what is it that helped them to change? What is it that allows people to overcome...
by Barnabas | Jun 1, 2019 | Addiction, Crossdressing, Guest Posts, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
Pause: How Delaying Gratification can Lead to Long Term Satisfaction Written by JH JH says: I am 27 year old guy that loves Jesus, sports, and my family. I was saved seven years ago out of my cross dressing addiction, and am continually working towards further healing...
by Barnabas | Mar 12, 2019 | Addiction, Additional Resources, Autogynephilia, Crossdressing, Envy, Gender Stereotypes, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Identity, Marriage, Origins of the Desires, Psychologists, Sexual Pleasure, Transgender |
I would like to recommend the book, Transvestites and Transsexuals: Toward a Theory of Cross-Gender Behavior, written by Richard F. Docter, published in 1988. Before I talk about the book, let me give a warning. Don’t read this book without getting into a...
by Barnabas | Jan 8, 2019 | Accountability, Addiction, Bible, Crossdressing, Harmful Effects of Crossdressing, Idolatry, Men's Fashion, Practical Tips, Purges of Clothing, Sexual Pleasure, Temptations |
If you’ve spent much time reading about crossdressing online then you will probably know about the term “purging” and all of the wisdom and lore that has built up around this idea. Purging is basically the act of getting rid of all of your female...
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